7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 105

 

 

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:    From “Something is Wrong With Me” to “I’m Engaged!”  What a wonderful encouragement for us all that ‘in a New York minute’ everything can change.

— 2 —  No other QTs today.  I had a stressful and busy (but fun!) week and today I had to catch up on wrapping presents and such. But, I am off work for the next 2 weeks! :)

— 3 — I remain available to you via email so please feel free to reach out to me:  theveilofchastity@gmail.com

— 4 —  Please know that I try to respond as soon as possible.  Gregg and I (and our 9-year-old) share our 1 computer (No iPad for us due to my continuing goal to become a minimalist) so I can’t always get on to respond right away.  

— 5 —  As a side note, when I am at work, I cannot respond at all.

— 6 —   Thank you for understanding!

  7 —  You remain in my prayers!

God love and bless you!

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From “Something Is Wrong With Me” To “I’m Engaged!”

There are many rewarding things about this ministry. I love it when you girls write to me and I am blessed to watch the Lord work in your lives through your updates.

Today I share with you the story of a 27 year old girl, let’s call her Maggie, who first wrote to me because she felt that something was wrong with her.  She had many insecurities which fed her fears about intimacy and marriage.  She dealt with perfectionism and wondered how she could ever feel comfortable revealing her real self to a man.  Here is part of her note:

I focus on looking perfect and try not to let “date-able” :) guys see me unless I’m at my best. I guess I can’t imagine them still liking me if I gain 5 lbs or they see my crazy hair when I just let it do its thing lol! Or I think that only guys I’m not attracted to will still like me at my “worst.” I know that’s awful!

Anyway, all this focus on my appearance is really self-absorbed, and I don’t want to be that way. It probably shows a big lack of trust in God’s plan, too. I don’t want to live my life in a mirror, always concerned about how guys see me. 

I wrote back to her and shared how I had struggled with the same fears and perfectionism. I could have written every word above. I shared how God had healed me and how I fully believe in the Veil theory.

I shared with her that this is a normal struggle because she is not shown the whole plan (her future remains unveiled!).  Much of what she is living with respect to her vocation has a big question mark over it.  So, of course she is struggling.

I encouraged her because I felt that she was doing everything she can.  She is walking with the Lord and living a Sacramental life in Christ.  It is just a matter of continuing to walk with the Lord and trusting Him with her life.  He will heal her and most often, He uses our journey towards our vocation to accomplish this healing.

So, I added her to my Divine Mercy Chaplet prayer list and have been praying for her ever since.  Then, I get this note!

Hi Cindy! 

I wrote you a few times months back and I’ve been meaning to write you again for a while. THANK YOU for your prayers! 

I have wonderful news to share — I am engaged to XXX (let’s call him Joseph). I am so grateful for certainty, peace, and joy in our vocation together, and can’t wait to be married to him! 

Your site has helped me so much — I stumbled upon it just when I really needed to hear what you were saying (well, really, what God wanted me to hear), a little less than a year before I met my “holy spouse.” Through months of not-the-prettiest growing pains, especially dealing with issues of self-image, painful longing and doubt that I would ever meet someone, and struggling to avoid crushes/pinning my hopes on different guys according to MY plan of what I wanted, God rapidly pruned and prepared me to meet my holy spouse. 

 It was because of your site that I started praying for him! I was inspired by a story you linked to that advised doing spiritual battle “in the trenches” for your future spouse. So I started a 54-day rosary novena, which we found out we prayed on the exact same days for the intention of our future spouse months before we met. 

I went on a Retreat and offered myself completely openly to God’s will for my life (a complete grace…reading a book by Jacques Philippe called School of the Holy Spirit helped), and with peace and amazing clarity was assured by Him that I had discovered my vocation with Joseph. 

It’s funny, even the night I first met Joseph I had a deeply peaceful yet startling intuition that he was my holy spouse. It happened while he was reading in our study group. That was the first time I heard him speak, and I felt like I had heard his voice a thousand times before! Then I thought I was crazy! But I looked at him again and had an intuition that he was the one. 

I wanted to test my intuition, though, because it seemed so crazy to think that about a random stranger! I remembered what you advised about allowing the man to pursue, so I decided not to make any “moves” towards him, despite my intuition. When we broke from reading and got up, he walked right up to me, introduced himself, asked a couple questions about how I found out about the study group, then asked if I was seeing anyone! I went home and couldn’t sleep at all that night! Our first date was a few days later. Things went very fast…but I know it is God’s timing. 

Thank you for delineating how the “real deal” will act towards you. It’s so funny how Joseph has acted to a ‘T’ exactly how you described how your holy spouse would act (he’s never read your site) :) He pursued me, always called when he said he would and followed through on all his promises and our plans to see each other. Even things he promised to do for me that I forgot about, he remembered and did them. It helped me see that he was faithful in small things. When we first started dating (and even now) I felt secure and never worried that he might not follow through with calls or dates, or that he might be interested in other women. 

He makes me feel so feminine and really the best version of myself. He supported me with prayers and took me to the airport so I could go on retreat with the sisters. He wanted me to know that he cared about me enough to let me pursue God’s will for my life, even if that meant joining religious life. I’ve never felt smothered by him; he has his own full life and wonderful friends, but he draws me into his life like you said.  

Whenever we disagree, he’s humble and if he ever feels like he’s hurt me in some small way, he comes back immediately to apologize and reassure me of how much I mean to him (just like you said!) And, just like you said, he seems to have “grace glasses” :) on that minimize my faults and accentuate my good qualities! Of course, that may also be from falling in love. 

But I’m finding that all the annoying things I do that I thought a man would get fed up with me, none of them are deal-breakers for him — nothing could be! He’s patient with me. And I wrote you expressing worry that I couldn’t imagine being around a man all the time because they would see my imperfections…I can’t believe how comfortable and myself I am around him! I had really exaggerated fears. He lets me know that I’m beautiful and has offered to help me get over some of my vain hang-ups that I’ve told him about so I can just let go. He thinks I’m beautiful with my hair just how it naturally is (big plus).

I could go on and on so I’ll just stop myself!! Thank you for encouraging me and other women to trust and wait on the Lord. He truly does have something even better than what we can possibly imagine in store for us! 

Isn’t it beautiful how she describes the idea of the Veil and of Superabundance?

The premise of The Veil theory is that God puts a protective veil over us …and, once God lifts the veil, our holy spouse sees us through the eyes of Love in all our beauty and virtue filled with grace and trust…

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Praise be to God!  Thank you Maggie for sharing your story with me and blessings to you and Joseph!

If you are struggling, please feel free to write to me @ theveilofchastity@gmail.com

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 104

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:    You Don’t Have To Be An Open Book!

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  Hmmmmm….

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:   The girls are on a break until January.  I will miss them!

— 4 —   Spotlight On:  Have you heard of The Nika Gals, Emmy and Rosy?  And how about those beautiful names, Emmy and Rosy?  Also, you must go read about them and the meaning behind the name, Nika.  I was introduced to them via their post called The List.  You can follow them on Facebook here!

— 5 —  Healing Mass:  I went to a Healing Mass last night.  Boy was I ready!  I was filled with so much HOPE after receiving Jesus in the Eucharist and then being prayed over.  The laying on of hands.  The cross made on my forehead by the holy hands of the priest.  It was exactly what this girl needed.  I did not get to go to confession because there was a person in the confessional…..almost…the…whole…time (I don’t think the priest knew that we were all waiting).  When I came home and told this to Gregg, our son said with sadness, “Boy that person must have felt really terrible about their sins.”  I just love it when I encounter these marathon confessions.  It means that the Sacrament is being taken seriously by both the priest and the human soul in the confessional.  It means that the soul is being brought back home and that some major healing is going on.

— 6 —    Healing During Advent:  After going to the healing Mass, I realized that I am in need of so much change.  What you ask? Ha!  Where to start is a better question. I want to become a patient and kind, organized Minimalist.  I want to rid myself of my attachments.  I want to be free so that I can glorify God by my life. Gregg always gets concerned when I start speaking this way.  ha ha. Pray for me please, that I will be gracious and kind in my pursuit of becoming gracious and kind.

“Contentment is acquired through great resolution & diligence in conquering unruly desires; hence it is an art which few study “

  7 — Emotional Virtue/Sarah Swafford:  I have decided the talk I mentioned last week which I will be giving to girls on January 2nd will be about Emotional Virtue (ala Sarah Swafford).    You can pre-order her book, Emotional Virtue: A Guide to Drama-Free Relationships, here! I ordered 36 books because when you order in bulk they are only $2 each! Maybe I will have a give-away contest in January when they arrive. :)

God love and bless you!

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You Don’t Have To Be An Open Book

Being an honest person is not the same as being an open book.  I have a couple of examples:

Cycle Problems

I was emailing with a sweet girl this week who has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS).  She told me that she shares this information up front with the guys she dates because she feels that it is only fair to them that they know she will have trouble conceiving.

I advised her against this for a couple of reasons.  First, no one is guaranteed that they will have children.  Second, she is not her fertility.  She is a person with many attributes and gifts and her value is not based on her ability to bear children.

I recommend that she allow a man to fall in love with her ~ the whole person~ rather than dissect out one attribute (her fertility) as being some sort of fault.  I think it would be distracting to the man and she could be sabotaging her chances at love.

I had two miscarriages when Gregg and I were first married.  I never felt that this negatively impacted his love for me. In fact, that suffering we both experienced strengthened our love. Did we want children?  Yes!  Very much.  But, we had to understand that children were not a right.  It humbled us.  We realized that were just happy to have each other.

I am not suggesting that she lie about it.  I am suggesting that she does not know the end of the story.  She may believe she will have trouble conceiving and carry a baby to term but how can one know this in advance?  Truly with God, all things are possible.  In the same vein, how does the guy know for sure that he will be fertile in the marriage?  No one knows this in advance.

I believe that if a man loves a girl, he will love her just as much (maybe even more) upon finding (after trying and exhausting all avenues) she is unable to conceive his child.  I have lived it.

Dating History

You do not need to reveal your dating history to anyone.  If you have dated zero or 50, it is no one’s business.  A gentleman would not ask nor insist upon this information.

Sexual History

Oh ditto!  A gentleman would never ask this.  If he does, you can reply by saying “I am not sure it should matter one way or another.”  Then smile sweetly and confidently.

What if you have an STD? Because this has the potential to affect his health then I suggest you share this but only after things are serious.  And by serious, I mean a proposal.  Then, at that point, you have the conversation that goes something like this: I understand if this is something that you feel afraid of and I understand if you are not willing to walk this road with me.”

The reason why I think you wait until the proposal is because it is somewhat presumptuous of you to bring it up any sooner than that.  I mean, what do you say?  “If you are thinking of marrying me..”  “If we get married..”

None of this should bring you shame.  There is so much more to you than your sexual history or potential.  Either way, whatever you say, smile sweetly and confidently.

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Confidence

Often the need to share too much is fed by our insecurities.  Be that confident girl and not the girl who needs to justify or explain herself.

Feel free to write to me if I can help you navigate through any of this.  theveilofchastity@gmail.com

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 103

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:    Guest Post ~  Praying Through The Clouds  Thank you to Anjelina!

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  Hmmmmm….

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:   This week’s NAS topic was Preparing The Way!  I have not read any of the NAS girl’s posts yet but I will this weekend.  I skimmed over Jen’s post and now I can’t wait to read it in full along with the others!

— 4 —   Spotlight On: Esther Rich wrote a great article on The Chastity Project blog called I Didn’t Wait And Wish I Did: An open response to Samantha Pugsley.  Again, I am in ‘skim’ mode but it looks like Esther did a great job of clearing up misconceptions about marital chastity.  If you remember, Esther provided a guest post here!   Nice job Esther!

— 5 —  The Humanum Series:  Do you remember me including the Humanum Series in my 7QTs last time?  May I recommend the site which has all 6 videos?  You can find them Here.  It is wonderful!  Be sure to scroll down the page to see all the videos.

— 6 —    Marrying Your Best Friend:  This Article was great! 

  7 — Giving A Talk:  I have been invited to talk to a group of girls between the ages of 19 and 24 years old and the topic is: Marriage.  I have been told that some of these girls are experiencing temptation to try to make it happen at any cost.   The talk is on Friday night January 2, 2015.  Will you please pray for me and these girls?  What would be the most helpful thing I can share with these girls?  I would love to hear from you! @ theveilofchastity@gmail.com

God love and bless you!

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Guest Post ~ Praying Through The Clouds

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“I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you, because your faith is being reported all over the world. God, whom I serve with my whole heart in preaching the gospel of his Son, is my witness how constantly I remember you in my prayers at all times.” Rom. 1:8-12

I have been praying for Anjelina for over a year.  I added her to my prayer list after she commented on a post in August 2013.  To my great delight, she recently wrote to me and this gave me the ability to add more depth to the name written on the page of my Divine Mercy Chaplet prayer list.  Little did we both know of the timing of that note.

She has a wonderful meditation for all of us about disappointment and sorrow, hope and healing. 

Anjelina recently started her own blog and you can read more about her at Random Ramblings.  Thank you, Anjelina and I look forward to reading more from you! 

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“Sometimes things happen in our lives that tear us apart inside, but
if we don’t learn to look past them and see the sun shining above the
clouds, we will forever be standing in the rain.
-Unknown

Hi readers,
First of all am I thankful for the opportunity to be a guest blogger. I’ve really prayed about this post and will write what comes to mind.

My name is Anjelina. I’m not sure who to attribute this wise quote to, but these words are related to my post. Whether it was a break-up, a loss of a loved one or rejection from a job you really wanted, we’ve all experienced that painful feeling of loneliness and sadness.

Nearly two years ago I went through a painful break-up and still am recovering from the hurt. Thankfully the author of our lives along with the help of our Blessed Mother have been working in my life in amazing ways. I’d like you to know even at your lowest God is always with you; He can love us like no other.

A few days ago I felt the strong urge to e-mail The Veil for prayers. I knew I was struggling with my singleness and doing God’s will, but I didn’t fully understand why I wrote about needing prayers. No more than ten minutes later I found out through Facebook my former date was in a new relationship. Now, you might say, ouchies that hurts. Well, you’d be right. The hurt resurfaced and I felt all those emotions all over again.

Here is where God comes into play. I knew someone was praying for me right then which gave me strength. If it weren’t for discovering the news, I wouldn’t be writing this post or have been moved to begin blogging about my life experiences. I truly believe God knows when to reveal things to us because He writes the best stories and knows when we can handle it.

I’m still human and at times feel those raw emotions, however knowing I have a community of prayerful ladies who support each other is comforting.  I have gained strength through the rosary and friends. I’m learning when I don’t want to pray the rosary is the best time to do so. Reflecting on the mysteries is like a refreshing drink of cold water. My mind is refocused and I am ready to take on another day.

I pray this entry has helped someone who may be hurting or feels far from God. Come to Him and he will heal your heart and bring you peace. Know you are in my prayers.

Anjelina

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God love and bless you!

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Thankful For You

Hello dear readers!

I am taking a break from blogging this week but I want to pass on to you my deepest gratitude for how much each and every one of you inspire me.  What a privilege it is when you write and share your hearts with me!

As we enter the holidays, Thanksgiving, Advent and Christmas, know that you are not alone. But I know this is a very difficult time of the year and that you may feel alone.

The following quote from Maura from Made in His Image sums it up perfectly:

“To the girl who is doubting everything about herself this night – dry your tears sweetheart. You are so beautiful, even in your brokenness. And your wounds are perfect for the man that is meant to love you forever. You are so enough, precious and lovable. #youareenough”  Maura Byrne ~ Made In His Image

Stay encouraged!  I would love to pray for you and add your name to my Divine Mercy Chaplet prayer list. Write to me anytime @ theveilofchastity@gmail.com

If the Lord moves you to do so, please think about supporting Maura.  She has a gofundme campaign which can be found Here.  I have met Maura (I sponsored her when she came to my church). Believe me when I tell you that she is an angel!

Here is a message from her:

 

Thankful for each of you.  God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 102

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:     Oh My Parents! I hope this post provided helpful perspective!   

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  Hmmmmm….

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:   This week’s NAS topic was Prayer!  The girls did a great job this week and the photos they shared are beautiful.  Check them out!

— 4 —   Spotlight On: What did you think of this article?  Why I Want To Skip The Confusing “Talking” Phase and Find Out What He Really Wants

— 5 —  The Humanum Series:  Did you see this article about The Destiny of Humanity:  On the Meaning of Marriage?  Here is the video Part 1 of 6:  

— 6 —     3 Keys:  This was a good article:   3 Keys to Save your Future Marriage.  I agree with all the keys with the exception of the 3rd key listed in the article. It says that marriage is ‘extremely difficult’ but I think it is all about perspective.  Being single is, to me, much, much harder.

  7 —  Finally Free:  This weekend is the first in many, many weekends since August that we have nothing planned other than Mass and a trip to the grocery store.  We had to work today and it is cold in our house.  So, instead of finishing up this remaining Quick Take, I think I will get under a blanket.  Brrrrrr.  I have received a number of emails this week from you beautiful girls and I look forward to catching up tomorrow morning after a good night’s rest.

God love and bless you!

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Oh, My Parents!

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I am famous for telling pregnant girls that the two gifts of Motherhood are guilt and worry.  Which is a good opening concept for this post about seeing things from your parent’s perspective. I get emails from you expressing your frustration with your parents:

“My parents think my singleness is all my fault!”

“My parents never know the right thing to say.”

“My parents are so critical of me!”

“I wish my parents were more supportive.”

“My parents think I am mean for not responding to guys who only offer lame pursuits.”

Guilt

Your parents may blame themselves for your singleness.  They may look back on any mistakes they made in raising you or mistakes made in their own marriage and wonder if that is causing your delayed marriage.

The guilt they feel from it makes them unable to form a sentence which sounds supportive.  The guilt they feel is communicating something that is most likely not true.  Your singleness may be, in their mind, communicating to the world that they are bad parents and this makes them feel guilty.

Your parents may also be projecting their issues and failures onto you, unable to see that you are your own person.  And, these issues and failures, if they are even slightly detected in you, make them feel guilty….and they worry.

Worry

Please don’t underestimate how much your parents worry about you.  I never knew worry before I had my son.  When he was first born, I had this exaggerated fear that he was going to get stolen. I had this ‘Lindbergh baby’ thing going on in my head where I thought someone was going to come into our house and take him.  Every night I would ask Gregg, “Did you lock the sliding glass door?”

I worry less now but I do have more compassion on my parents these days, especially my dad.  My mom was always really relaxed about my extended singleness but I think my dad worried.  He wanted me to be married so bad.  It drove him to, at times, say things that were meant to be encouraging but somehow fell flat.  Poor guy!  There was just nothing he could say that would help.  But, you should have seen him on my wedding day.  He practically had to be sedated he was so happy. And then when I became a mother I could see that, all along, it was the joy my parents wanted for me.

Now that I have a child, I totally understand. But, I can guarantee you that my worry for him as he grows into adulthood, will make it seem as though I am putting pressure on him to meet my expectations.  Heck, I do that already and he is only 9 years old.

Expectations

Jerome as a baby

Oh, the pressure!  Parents have expectations. I am constantly on our son about stuff.  Practice your math, hang up your clothes, put your shoes where they belong, fast-forward through the commercials, turn the TV down, look people in the eye.  Just this morning we were heading into Mass and a schoolmate of his walked right up to him and said, “Hi.”  Our son half-way acknowledged the boy and said, “Hi.”  So, after putting some distance between us and the schoolmate, I reminded him about the definition of ‘stuck up.’  This, of course, made him almost cry.

I am just trying to prevent him from himself sometimes.  He is a really friendly, personable child but on the rare occasion when he acts stuck up, he cannot see how his response comes off.  It is my job, as his mom, to point things like this out to him.  Oh, and he never appreciates this by the way.

Just like our parents corrected us and we did not like or appreciate it.  They had expectations.  And, those expectations can really feel like pressure…..and criticism.

Critical

One girl wrote to me wishing her mom would be more supportive and not so critical. She wishes that her mom would be more accepting and not try to change or fix her.  As I was reading it, I could see my son saying this about me!

We all imagine that when we have children, we will be accepting, encouraging and supportive of them all the time.  We can think of no reason to not be! Well, I thought that too.  But, the job is not a glamorous one.  You have to be the safety patrol, Schoolmarm, the big wet blanket, Mrs. Manners and the fun and grammar police.

As a parent, you can see the pitfalls ahead of time and you, out of love, don’t want your children to fall into these pits.  So, you guide, you correct, you make faces, you make sounds of disapproval and you pontificate.

Transition

I think there comes a point when parents have to emotionally separate from their child so that the pain that the adult child is experiencing is not so keenly felt by the parents.  But, my guess is that this separation process is very difficult.  You have heard that having a child is like wearing your heart on the outside.  Well it is true.  The bond is so strong that you feel everything they feel. Your pain is their pain.  Your desire is their desire.  Your disappointment is their disappointment.

You want the best for them. However, parents, in their broken human condition, fumble the transition ball.

Helplessness

My guess is that your parents want your pain and disappointment to end as much as you do but they feel very helpless in making it go away. So, they offer less than helpful advice, on occasion act exasperated and make comments that can sound critical.

Maybe they married young and your extended singleness completely confounds them.  Maybe they are thinking “What is so hard about finding a husband?”  Or they are thinking, “If my daughter were more XX or less ZZ, she would be married by now.”  They just have no concept of your suffering.

When you were little, they could do something.  But now that you are a grown woman, they can only helplessly observe from the sidelines.  

What To Do

  1. Know that your parents love you and want the best for you.
  2. When your parents offer you advice about your love life, just smile, nod your head and say ‘thank you for loving me and wanting the best for me, Mom and Dad.’  
  3. When your parents fumble the ball and say things that upset you, forgive them.
  4. Find someone other than your parents to vent to. Once you are married and have their grandchildren, you will be glad you did not jeopardize the relationship with unkind and angry outbursts of frustration.
  5. Pray for patience and grace prior to each interaction with your parents.  Imagine the Blessed Mother at your side.  She understands your suffering.
  6. Continue to lead a Sacramental life so as to be strengthened during this time in your life.

Write to me anytime at: theveilofchastity@gmail.com 

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 101

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:     Fear – Part 3 ~ Healthy Fear  Thank you for the feedback on this post! 

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  So many topics to pick from!  Thank you for all your emails this week and the honor of sharing your hearts with me.  What do you think if I write a post about being a Mother?  I see some of you struggling with your parents and I am wondering if a post about things from a Mom’s perspective would be interesting/insightful?  

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:   This week’s NAS topic was The Struggle Bus!  Ugh, are you on it?  Check out what the girls had to say!  

Cathedrals

Cathedrals by Tenth Avenue North

— 4 — Spotlight On:  Gregg wanted you girls to know about a band called Tenth Avenue North.  Below I included a song called, appropriately, Struggle which has great lyrics, including: “Children drop your chains and sing.”  The next song below, Jesu, Dulcis Memoria, features Audrey Assad.  Enjoy!  

— 5 —  Self-Image and ChastityOh goodenss, I love the title of the article, What does Self-Image have to do with Chastity?  Just like it says ~ Everything!!  I must do a post about this!

— 6 —   Positive Chastity:  Did you see the article on First Things called Positive Chastity?

“What is needed is a chastity recommendation that doesn’t end with “Thou shalt not.” It follows through with “And thou shalt enjoy a better life.

  7 —  The Most Overlooked Characteristic of Who to Marry:  What is that characteristic?  Go Here to see!

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