This Week’s News

Soooo, I already sort of broke my commitment to not watch any football this season.  I actually didn’t watch much football yesterday but I did watch the NFL Sunday Countdown.  They opened the show on a very somber note talking about domestic violence.

Without going into detail about the incidences that played out right in front of our eyes this week, I want to propose that the following virtue can prevent these ills of society: Chastity

But first I thought we would take a look at Sunday’s readings, specifically the first reading from the book of Numbers: 

“From Mount Hor they set out by the way to the Red Sea, to go around the land of Edom; and the people became impatient on the way.
And the people spoke against God and against Moses, “Why have you brought us up out of Egypt to die in the wilderness? For there is no food and no water, and we loathe this worthless food.”
Then the LORD sent fiery serpents among the people, and they bit the people, so that many people of Israel died.
And the people came to Moses, and said, “We have sinned, for we have spoken against the LORD and against you; pray to the LORD, that he take away the serpents from us.” So Moses prayed for the people.
And the LORD said to Moses, “Make a fiery serpent, and set it on a pole; and every one who is bitten, when he sees it, shall live.”
So Moses made a bronze serpent, and set it on a pole; and if a serpent bit any man, he would look at the bronze serpent and live.”

Numbers 21: 4-9

Sunday we celebrated the Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross.  That Old Testament passage is a foreshadowing of the saving power of Christ.

Do we become impatient and complain?  Yes.  But note the Confession of the people:  We have sinned…” and the power of Moses’ intercession on their behalf: So Moses prayed for the people.…” and God, the great Physician, provided the antidote to sin and the prescription for life:  “…everyone who is bitten, when he sees it, shall live.”

The ways of the Lord bring life, not death. Chastity, also brings forth something beautiful:  Good Fruit

Chastity results in a powerful fruit referred to here as Superabundance.  When I hear of domestic violence, I always wonder if the needed antidote is Superabundance? 

“Von Hildebrand’s concept of Superabundance is an inner richness that flows over and brings about fruit. This good fruit includes children and many other common human desires such as faithfulness, devotion, sacrifice, reliability, gentleness, constancy, affection, admiration, freedom, security, peace, compassion and protection.

For Catholics, our faith already teaches that chastity, which includes sexual abstinence before marriage, is a virtue, and that virtue bears fruit. The Catechism also teaches us that in the case of marriage, the practice of chastity (remaining open to life) naturally leads to patience, temperance, prudence, honesty and trust. Clearly these fruits of real love are characteristic of a man who is devoted and is into you.”

Gentleness, not abuse.  Affection, not punches.  Security, not control.  Protection, not harm.

Can domestic abuse be a part of a chaste marriage?  Sure. Okay.

Back to this week’s news. I guess I just don’t get why she married him even after the abuse in the elevator.  Maybe it is because they had a child together and she was attached to him emotionally, psychologically and physically.  Maybe it was because of greed and the affluence that comes with running in those circles.

But, she has a daughter.  A daughter who will more than likely witness more abuse or maybe be on the receiving end of abuse from the father.  This is the part I find most unacceptable.  Choose for yourself the consequences of your decision.  But, pure selfishness drives the decision to put your little daughter in that situation.  This is the blindness so many suffer from today. 

“One of the fundamental problems that unchastity brings about is a blindness that leads directly to acts of imprudence.  A person who is inflamed by lustful desires is hardly in a position to do what is good for himself or anyone else.”

Angelic Warfare Confraternity

I heard people say we need more education about domestic abuse and that the NFL should throw a bunch of money at the problem in order to solve it.  Money and education will have little effect.  The life-giving prescription of Confession, repentance and Chastity will go a long way towards domestic peace.  Let us pray and intercede for those bitten by the fiery serpent.

“If you want peace, work for justice”   Pope Paul VI

“If you want justice, work for Chastity”   Saint Pope John Paul II 

Peace

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 93

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:  A Secular ‘Dating Coach’ Says…  What did you think of Evan Marc Katz’s advice? 

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  Oh goodness, so many things to write about!

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:   This week’s NAS topic was Oh So Chivalrous!  I am a lover of chivalry so I really enjoyed this week’s topic.  I particularly liked Laura’s post from A Drop in the Ocean.  Her post, Chivalry Is Not Dead was great! I loved the pudding story and felt hopeful hearing how often she experiences chivalrous acts.  Nice! 

   I always try to encourage chivalrous acts by allowing men to open the door and so forth.  Gregg is super chivalrous. He opens my car door, puts gas in my car and all kinds of ‘die to oneself’ kinds of acts,  I wonder sometimes if men learn this from their Dads because I would definitely describe my father-in-law as being chivalrous.  We also are training our son to open doors, let girls have first dibs and so forth. The biggest training ground is what he sees from his father and I feel pretty good about that.  His wife should be all set.

I have so many stories of unchivalrous acts and they stick out to me because I am such a believer in it.  I have a friend who was at her sister’s wedding about 20 years ago.  Her father, at the time, was in his 60’s and in ill-health.  My friend had left something in her car and it was raining.  Her longtime boyfriend (who was not in the wedding party) refused to go out to the car to get the item because he did not want to get wet.  My friend was all decked out in her bridesmaid dress and bridesmaid hair.  So her father (yes, the father of the bride) went out to the car and got all wet!  This did not faze my friend’s boyfriend at all.  When I heard the story I was shocked.  To this day, I still can’t forget it.  Yes, they eventually broke up.  I see chivalry as the ability to sacrifice oneself and if it is missing in marriage, then trouble will be at the front door.

— 4 — Spotlight On:  Jen and Morgan were on TV!!  Did you see them?  Oh, they were so poised and beautiful (great shoes!). They talked of how important it is to wait for God’s will.  I was at Mass today during their TV appearance and sent Jen a little text letting her know I was praying for them. I felt so proud of them. Check them out!!  Great job girls and congratulations to all the NAS girls. #NASBoston

— 5 —   Grandparent’s Day: These 7QTs are late today because I enjoyed the day with my mom who was in town for Grandparent’s day at our son’s school. #ILoveMyMom

— 6 —  Procrastination: I am at a point in my life where I feel more and more convicted about how I use my time.  For example, let’s say I have a list of 20 things to do.  I will do 2 of them and then sit down at the computer and see what is going on.  On a good note, sometimes during my ‘breaks’ I sit on the couch and watch TV while I snuggle with my son.  But, I don’t understand why I don’t just knock out the 20 things and THEN enjoy my free time?  What ends up happening is that even when I am goofing off I feel the pressure of the tasks that are yet undone.  Then, I tend to get stressed as I run out of time to complete everything.  Even right now, this very minute, I am procrastinating. Last football season, I also spent an unacceptable amount of time watching football and when the season was finished I looked back and felt I had squandered my precious time.   My plan, with God’s grace, is to improve this frustrating area of my life. Each time I put to death my own desires, I will offer it up for my friend who is suffering right now.  The first step is recognizing who I am not and what is possible. #IWantTrueFreedom

“We’ll never become who we truly are until we hand over to God all that we are not.”  

True Freedom

— 7 —  I was on travel for work this week and am a little behind on responding to your emails. I look forward to catching up this weekend!

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 92

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:  How Much Time Should You Give Him?  6 months.

“…the marriage discussion should be on the table, prompted by him, in the first 6 months…”

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:   Even secular, non-chaste guys agree that a girl should not wait around for a guy to decide.  I will share an article by a secular, non-chaste dating ‘coach’ who backs up the limited time factor!

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:  The girls are back!!! And, they had 15 contributors along with several new ‘hello, my name is’ introductions on their Facebook private page (come and join us!).

    This week they discuss ways they can be more involved at church or in their communities.  Check out all their posts over at Morgan’s blog!  I am so proud of all of them and felt so edified by their sense of service to the Lord and His Church.  Way to go, girls!

— 4 — Spotlight On:  This week’s spotlight is on Mark and Katie Hartfiel as they are going to be on Life on the Rock tonight at 8:00pm.  Remember Katie wrote the book, Woman In Love (which I loved) and I did a review. Check them out!

— 5 —  Clouded By My Unmet Needs:  I read the article called “My Survival Story” which was about surviving the hook-up culture in college.  There was one line that really caught my attention as I think it explains what goes on inside the head and heart.  What are your unmet needs and what are you doing to manage them and heal?
“I was clouded by my unmet needs.”

— 6 —  Still Thinking On-line Dating Is Stupid?:  Check out this video!

— 7 —   The Lord Loves Repentence:   Saint Romanos Melodios (around the year 560) wrote this:

“Let us meditate on the Ninevites…, let us listen to what they did. After the terrifying proclamation made by Jonah before this gluttonous and drunken people…, like capable workmen they made hast to restore the city their evil deeds had destroyed, taking a sure rock for its foundation…: repentance.

Son of the One God, O only God, who carry out the will of those who love you, protect them in your mercy… As in former days you took pity on the Ninevites… so today release from judgment those who sing to you and grant me forgiveness in return for my confession… Since I have no works worthy of your glory, at least save me, my Savior, for my words of contrition: you who love repentance.”

God love and bless you!

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How Much Time Should You Give Him?

I received this comment in response to last week’s post, He Doesn’t Need More Time: 

Cindy, why do you think that men string women along even when they know they don’t want to marry them? I understand that for a lot of men, it’s sex, but why would a practising Catholic/Christian man (whose girlfriend is, I assume, not sleeping with him) string things out? 

I’ve heard the opinion that a woman should break up with a man after a year if he hasn’t at least mentioned marrying her (the opinion-giver added the caveat that the man and woman should both be finished with university in order for this rule to apply.) What do you think?

These are really two questions but I think they are linked together. A man will sit on the fence for a number of reasons but it is up to the girl to not let it drag on.  The amount of time that a girl should allow a guy to decide is determined by the quality of the continued pursuit because the quality of the pursuit is a reflection of his intentions to marry her or not.  Rarely is the pursuit strong and consistent when his intentions are to not to marry the girl.  The symptoms are usually glaring.

But, he doesn’t break it off. Why?

What Is In It For Him and Why?

If sex is not the motivating factor for a guy to keep dating a girl he knows he doesn’t want to marry, then what is it?  I wrote about this in the post, Stop Responding To Lame And Inconsistent Initiation.  The reasons could be: she is meeting a need, she is a practice girl or the Veil

Meeting A Need

These needs can be physical (is the realtionship 100% chaste? because you know….), emotional or social needs.  Or, it can be simply that you build up his ego by your strong interest in him.  Your chasing, responding and flirtation are making him feel great! 

If his initiation is lame or inconsistent, then move on. If he fails to reassure you about his future intentions, then move on.  It may be the only way he can acknowledge to himself what his intentions are towards you.

Practice Girl

Have you ever heard of the term practice girl?  Sometimes, not always, guys like to practice on girls who will let them.  They practice their skills in asking a girl out, calling girls, kissing girls, etcetera (yes, etcetera!).  But, the guys know deep down that they are just practicing for the big game (marriage) rather than sincerely pursuing these practice girls.  So, they manage the situation by pushing the emotional boundaries and then pulling back so that the girl’s expectations remain low and in check.

When this happens, you are a good-for-now girl.  Ugh. Move on.

The Veil

You may be wondering why he pursues you at all if his intentions are not on the up and up?  Well, I believe that in addition to having his needs met, he also likes what he sees in you.  But he can’t fully see you.  I believe that we are all covered by a veil and only the one that God intends for us to marry, our Holy Spouse, can see us fully.

Is Age A Factor?

I was counseling a girl recently who is in her 40’s and dating a guy in his 50’s.  They dated for 9 months before things fell apart.  In my opinion, the guy had enough time to know if he wanted to marry her.  I shared with her that Gregg and I met in September 2001 and were married in 2002.  And, we were long-distance. Older men really have no excuse to sit on the fence.  They know.

So, yes.  Age is a factor on both ends of the spectrum.  If the couple has not completed University, then it may be prudent to marry once they are done.  But, I would link the justified delay to their age and maturity, not to their educational goals.

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How Long?

Warning:  This is my opinion: If the couple is free to marry, then the marriage discussion should be on the table, prompted by him, in the first 6 months.  Engagement should follow within a year of dating.  And, the wedding should take place 6 to 8 months after the engagement.  For each of these milestones, my question would be, “If not, why not?”

Free To Marry

What does free to marry mean?  It means that he has a job and is free to marry in the Church (annulment). If he can’t afford to date, then he cannot afford to be married. This is why those still in college may not be free to marry. Also, if he is still married to another girl and is in need of an annulment, then he is not free to marry you.

We Must Be Observant

It is up to the girl to do what is in her best interest.  Is his pursuit lame or inconsistent?  Has he not mentioned marriage in the first 6 months?  Has he not proposed in the first year?  Has he proposed but not set a near-term date?  Is he not reassuring when you point out the delay?

Then, you know.  Move on.

Are There Exceptions?

Yes, there are legitimate exceptions.  But, I think they are rare. And, there is usually a good reason behind the delay.  Sometimes the guy needs a little itty bitty nudge:

One girl wrote to me and shared that her boyfriend of one year said he needed 6 more months to decide about marriage. They were completely chaste…..not even a kiss.  I advised her to give him the six months, but if he has not proposed by then, she should break up with him.  She talked to him about it and shared her feelings in a very rational, yet understandably emotional, way.  It was not an ultimatum but instead an acknowledgement on her part of what is in her best interest.  She was starting to feel very off-balance by the length time she had put into the relationship and they were both in their late 20’s.  They were clearly free to marry.  Anyway, she spoke to him and within 3 days he proposed to her.  Their beautiful wedding took place 7 months later. He didn’t really need more time.  He needed a gentle, confident nudge. :)

Sometimes the guy has to get his financial house or other type of ‘life house’ in order.  If that is the case, then he should be having an open discussion with you about his intentions and he should reassure you with a reasonable timeline.  Someday is not a date.

If I can help you assess your specific dating situation, please feel free to write to me at theveilofchastity@gmail.com

Next week:  Even secular, non-chaste guys agree that a girl should not wait around for a guy to decide.  I will share an article by a secular, non-chaste dating ‘coach’ who backs up the limited time factor.

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 92

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:  He Doesn’t Need More Time  It is tempting to think that guys need to gather more information before deciding to marry a girl.  More time, to me, can spell trouble. How much time, you ask?  See next week’s post!

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  This was in the comments section and I plan to answer it, as well as the ‘how much time?’ question next week!

Cindy, why do you think that men string women along even when they know they don’t want to marry them? I understand that for a lot of men, it’s sex, but why would a practising Catholic/Christian man (whose girlfriend is, I assume, not sleeping with him) string things out?

I’ve heard the opinion that a woman should break up with a man after a year if he hasn’t at least mentioned marrying her (the opinion-giver added the caveat that the man and woman should both be finished with university in order for this rule to apply.) What do you think?

 

— 3 —  Saint Hat Trick:  Three great saints had feast days this month!

August 20th:  Saint Bernard of Clairveau (patron Saint of this blog)

St Bernard of Clairveaux

August 27th:  Saint Monica (Saint Augustine’s mother and patron saint of mothers with sons)

St Monica

August 28th:  Saint Augustine (patron saint for all of us sinners searching for the truth)

St Augustine 1

— 4 — Of Course He Would Give Us A Pope:  Sunday’s readings reminded us that God cares about us so much that He left us in good hands.  He did not leave us to figure it out on our own.  Isn’t it interesting that the role of The Pope was prophesized about way back in Isaiah?
  “I shall place the key of David’s palace on his shoulder; when he opens, no one will close, when he closes, no one will open.”
Isaiah 22: 22

— 5 —  Peter, Our First Pope:  And, Jesus confirms it!

When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi he put this question to his disciples, ‘Who do people say the Son of man is?’  And they said, ‘Some say John the Baptist, some Elijah, and others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.’  ‘But you,’ he said, ‘who do you say I am?’  Then Simon Peter spoke up and said, ‘You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.’

 Jesus replied, ‘Simon son of Jonah, you are a blessed man! Because it was no human agency that revealed this to you but my Father in heaven.  So I now say to you: You are Peter and on this rock I will build my community. And the gates of the underworld can never overpower it.  I will give you the keys of the kingdom of Heaven: whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven; whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”  

Matthew 16:13-20

— 6 —  Psalm 138:  I love this Psalm:

I thank you, Yahweh, with all my heart, for you have listened to the cry I uttered. In the presence of angels I sing to you,  I bow down before your holy Temple. I praise your name for your faithful love and your constancy; your promises surpass even your fame. You heard me on the day when I called, and you gave new strength to my heart. Sublime as he is, Yahweh looks on the humble, the proud he picks out from afar.  Yahweh will do all things for me. Yahweh, your faithful love endures for ever, do not abandon what you have made.”  

Psalm 138

— 7 —   Saint Raphael Arnaiz Baron: (1911-1938), a Spanish Trappist monk wrote this:
“We lack virtue not because it’s difficult, but be-cause we don’t wish for it. We lack patience because we don’t want it. We lack moderation and chastity for the same reason. If we were to wish it we would become saints; it’s much more difficult to be an engineer than to be a saint. If only we had faith!…Interior life, life of spirit, life of prayer. My God that is what must be hard! It isn’t so. Remove the im-pediment from your heart and there you will find God. Everything is now done. Many times we go looking for what isn’t there, and on the other hand pass by a treasure and don’t see it. This happens to us with God, whom we seek… through a jungle of things which, the more complicated they are, the better they appear to us. And yet we carry God within the heart, and don’t look for Him there. Retire within yourself, look at your nothingness, at the nothingness of the whole world, place
yourself at the foot of a Cross, and if you are guileless you will see God…If God is not there in our souls sometimes, it’s because we don’t wish it. We have so many affairs on hand, distractions, predilections, vain desires, presumptions, so much of the world within us, that God withdraws Himself; but it is sufficient to love Him, for God fills the soul in such a way that one must be blind not to see it. Does a soul wish to live according to God? Let it cast out everything that is not Him, and then it is achieved. It is relatively easy. If we were to wish for it, and if we were to ask God with simplicity, we should make great advances in the spiritual life. If we were to wish it we would become saints, but we are so stupid that we don’t want it, we would rather waste our time over foolish vanities.
 God love and bless you!

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He Doesn’t Need More Time

“To the wrong person, you’ll never have any worth.  But to the right person, you’ll mean everything.”

I’d like to address the time factor in dating.  I get emails from women from all over the world and usually their writing to me is prompted by a feeling of confusion.  They are dating a “great guy” but things are not moving forward toward marriage in at timely manner.  These women stay in the relationship in the hopes that more time will allow this great guy to make up his mind in her favor.  In the meantime, she gives and gives and grows more anxious and resentful.

He Has Enough Information

I just want to simply say that more time does not usually help a man decide to marry a woman.  He often has enough information, pretty early on, to make his decision to marry.  But, under certain circumstances, fails to decide for marriage and instead makes the decision to sit on the fence.

These circumstances include him having everything he wants without the need to commit.  He can also tend to reject the things about her that are inconvenient or troublesome but does not break things off. Leaving her off-balance.

The Perpetual Audition

In the meantime, the girl feels the need to audition.  She feels the need to be on her best behavior so as to not rock the boat.  It makes it hard for her to be herself.

Everyone Has Hang-Ups

Everyone has some level of neurosis (a funny word to me).  We all have our issues.  I remember when Gregg and I were engaged and I was visiting him in Kansas City.  We went to a NASCAR race with a bunch of his friends and family.  For some reason, our clothes were wet.  Maybe because of rain?  I can’t remember.  Anyway, all the girls told me that I could borrow their clothes when we got back to their house.  But, I wanted to wear my own clothes.  So, Gregg drove me back to his house which was completely out of the way.  I could not explain why I needed to have my own clothes and he was not real happy about it. But, I felt free to express my needs and, out of love, he accepted this about me.  Even today, he jokingly says I should have known.” whenever one my weird hang-ups surfaces.  And surface they do. But, he puts it all in perspective.  I guess it is all that Superabundance!

Chastity

One of the many benefits of Chastity is that it moves things along.  It also prevents the angst that comes with the audition and the potential rejection after giving yourself, body and soul.  It prevents all the head games, testing, disrespect, mistrust and manipulation that result from trying to control a situation that feels very out of control.

Here is what the Catechism of the Catholic Church says about Chastity

  • 2338 The chaste person maintains the integrity of the powers of life and love placed in him. This integrity ensures the unity of the person; it is opposed to any behavior that would impair it. It tolerates neither a double life nor duplicity in speech.

Here is what the Angelic Warfare Confraternity tells us about Chastity:  

  • Chastity is the virtue that brings the sexual appetite into harmony with reason.  It requires, not the renunciation of sexuality, but the right or reasonable use of it…….. Reason is a light that illuminates what we are doing so that we can behave in a way that is consistent with our best interest…
  • One of the fundamental problems that unchastity brings about is a blindnessthat leads directly to acts of imprudence.  A person who is inflamed by lustful desires is hardly in a position to do what is good for himself or anyone else.
  • Unchastity tends to destroy prudence and to prevent a person from maintaining the self-possession or integrity he needs in order to “be himself”in the proper sense of the term.
  • In the absence of chastity, a person is easily seducedinto doing things that are beneath his dignity, things that are shameful, things that do not accord with who he truly is.

Unchastity leads to a feeling of betrayal and, at the same time, the participating in the betrayal of oneself.  In the words of Archbishop Fulton Sheen:

“The greatest betrayals come from within.”

He Knows

Guys know a lot earlier than they let on when they don’t want to marry a girl.  If things drag on, then that is usually because he has already decided that he is not going to marry the girl.  Time, in this case, is not going to help.  Therefore, he does not need more time.

Additional Reading

May I recommend a post which contains this snippet?  Are You A Priority Or An Option?

“So, I encourage you to ask yourself this question about your current relationship: Are you a priority or just an option?  If you are just an option, break up and don’t look back.  Don’t delay your opportunity to be treated like a priority by the right man.  Don’t tie up your heart on a man who could take you or leave you.  Keep your heart free so that the Lord can move in your life and so that you can follow His will.  Keep your emotions holy so as to not deepen the crevices of anger, mistrust, self-blame and disappointment.”

If you need encouragement to do this, feel free to write to me at: theveilofchastity@gmail.com

God love and bless you!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 91

— 1 —  This Week’s Post:  Tactile Healing!  I pray this conversion story blessed you.

— 2 —  Next Week’s Post:  Oh goodness, so many things on my mind! I hope it is as good as this:

If You Want Justice, Work For Chastity”  Saint Pope John Paul II

— 3 —  Audrey Assad:  Death In His Grave.  I am also more of an Old Testiment girl!  Check out her whole post.

“Many of the ones I considered seemed ‘cliche’ to me, which seems terrible to say about a verse from Scripture, but I couldn’t help myself.  And I felt disconnected from their tone—on their own, removed from their surroundings, they rang hollow to me, as though stripped of the rightful dignity of context. I felt more connected to passages in Ecclesiastes that spoke of the vanity of life.  I was more enamored of Job than of Paul or Peter.”

— 4 —  Spotlight On:  This week’s spotlight is on Joan from Everything Is Yours for her post called The Mission of My Life. Here is the beginning but be sure to visit Joan to read the rest!
‘The Mission of my Life’ by Blessed John Henry Newman

“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next.

 

— 5 —  Leah Darrow:  This was good:  A Message From Leah Darrow – A Word to Men

— 6 —    Q-TIP:  I love this from Kari Kampakis and will be posting it in my office!
QTIP
— 7 —  Kari Kampakis’ Book:  I am honored to be asked by Kari to review her book, “10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know.”  I will be doing a review soon!  Remember I read very slowly so the review may not be posted for a while. :)
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Tactile Healing

This beautiful conversion story is not long but it reveals the glory of God and the healing power of the Sacraments. Note her use of the term ‘self-oriented” which means overly concerned with one’s own desires, needs or interests. Isn’t that the perfect way to describe ourselves when we are in need of healing?

I especially like how this amazing girl described the ‘tactility’ of our Faith. Yes, the Sacraments are tactile or capable of being perceived by the sense of touch. God heals us through physical means.  He touches us.  The Sacraments are God Himself reaching out to us with His healing balm of grace.

Thank you, Healed By Grace, for reminding us of the power and love of our Savior and Healer!

 “There is a balm in Gilead to make the wounded whole; there is a balm in Gilead to heal the sin-sick soul.”

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 Dear Cindy,

   Thank you so much for your reply. Your words and your experiences give me so much hope, I’m so glad that God has used you to communicate this message to those who need to hear it.  

  Of course I would love to share my conversion story with you. In some ways, it is quite an unusual one and it really goes to show how patient God is and how He is willing to wait for us to come back to Him. 

  I wasn’t raised in a religious family, so in primary school I was enrolled in non-scripture class when the other kids had scripture classes. In year 1, the teacher had a bit of a mix up and put me in the Anglican class – she didn’t believe me when I explained to her that I was not a Christian, so I ended up attending an Anglican scripture class that year. 

   From the very first class, I was fascinated by this man called Jesus. I specifically remember during Easter when I learnt of Christ’s ultimate sacrifice, and I think at that moment I considered myself a Christian. In the 13 years that followed, I would occasionally read the Bible, prayed and wrote letters to God, but there was always something very missing from my faith. 

  In 2008, my parents were invited to a Catholic parish by some family friends. They did the RCIA course and were baptized in 2009 (thanks be to God!).  At the time, I was still so complacent, believing that the faith I was practicing was enough. I was also convinced that Catholic doctrine and dogma was “not right”, despite not really knowing it all too well. 

   In the last 2 years of high school, I had an eating disorder, and it left me feeling very self-orientated, insecure and alone, as well as causing other physiological problems like amenorrhea. I distracted myself from the pain by focusing on school and my final exams – in hindsight, my illness was a gift from God, which helped me to do well in my exams and called me back to the Church. 

   Because I wanted to take my faith more seriously, I decided to do some research, and I went to my parent’s Catholic parish to explore Catholicism with an open mind. I joined the youth group, which helped me a lot – it was very encouraging to see young people take their faith so seriously. I joined an RCIA class in 2012, and was then baptized the following Easter in 2013. 

    It’s been such an amazing journey. I love how rich the Catholic traditions are, and how there is always more to learn. I found that to be such a huge difference between the Catholic Church and Protestantism. The tactility of our faith really helps to strengthen my relationship with Christ, is it always a constant reminder.  

  Thank you very much for your prayers Cindy! I too will pray for you and all the work you do.  

Healed By Grace

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 90

— 1 —   This Week’s Post:  What Are You Looking For?  I did some blog organizing and I hope it helps you find the exact post you need!

— 2 —   Next Week’s Post: Testimony time! A reader will share her conversion story and the power of God’s grace.

— 3 —  Not Alone Series:  Did you hear the EXCITING news?!?!  Jen and Morgan are going to be on TV!!

What: Jen and Morgan of the Not Alone Series community on This is the Day
When: Friday, September 12, 2014, 10:30AM EST
Watch: LIVE online at CatholicTV.com OR on the CatholicTV YouTube channel after original broadcast
Follow: We’ll be posting throughout our weekend in Boston and using #NASBoston to track our travels!
Morgan: Twitter | Instagram

— 4 —    Not Alone Series:  The girls are back and this week is a Freebie.  I have today off of work and can’t wait to get all caught up!  

— 5 —    Healing Signs and Wonders:  If you are in the Washington D.C. area next weekend (23rd), please consider going to the conference which features Father Dan Leary and Damian Stayne.  I follow Damian Stayne on Facebook.  He has an amazing healing charism which is such a gift to us at this time.  I would not normally put too much stock in lay folks having such a powerful ministry but it is backed by Father Dan and that is good enough for me.

— 6 —    Heroic Priesthood:  Word on Fire ministries has a very inspiring video called Heroic Priesthood.     
— 7 — Feast of the Assumption: Don’t forget today is a Holy Day!
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