7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 9

Posted on December 21, 2012 by theveilofchastity

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This Week’s Mythbuster: Myth #2 Part 2: God has forgotten about me, A Perspective on Suffering

Though woefully inadequate on the topic of suffering, I pray my post blesses you in your walk with the Lord.

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Looking For Answers: Yes, Part 2 is about suffering. For the most part, I wrote the post prior to the killings in Connecticut. I read a lot of blogs this week about suffering and found that no one, including me, has the market cornered on the topic. Everyone, those with faith and those without, is looking for answers and no explanation seems to completely satisfy us.

But, these words from our dear Holy Father astutely sums up what we are all trying to understand:

“….We encounter moments where God seems absent, His silence weighs on our hearts and His will doesn’t correspond to our own as we would like it to…”

Pope Benedict XVI, December 19, 2012

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Perspective on Mental Health: Following the killings in Connecticut, my husband and I went through many philosophical discussions about the root of murder and evil. We discussed the idea that it is only those who are away from the Lord who can commit such atrocities. But, then I read these two articles by Monsignor Pope and my mind was opened to the suffering of the mentally ill and their families:

The First Article was written the day before the killings in Connecticut: Nobody Knows The Trouble I’ve Seen, Nobody But Jesus. A Meditation On A Grief Observed

The Second Article was written after the killings: A Brother’s Reflection On The Mental Illness Of His Sister In The Wake Of A Great Tragedy

Monsignor Pope’s sister suffered from mental illness and had signs of mental illness even as a toddler. Their dear parents tried their best to manage it. It took quite a toll on them. For some reason unknown to man, this mental anguish persists for some even in the face of emotional, spiritual, mental and physical support.

Monsignor Pope is coming to our Church in March for our County Youth Day. I will be sure to thank him for his insight and sharing.

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Where Were We When?: We were at Mass on Friday morning when the killings happened in Connecticut. Our child’s school has a 9:00am Children’s Mass on Fridays and we try to attend when we have the day off. It was the feast day of St. John of the Cross who is famous for his book, Dark Night of The Soul.

For some reason, the Children’s Mass does not always follow the USCCB Daily Readings, but anyway, this part of the Gospel that morning caught my attention:

“He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”

Matthew 5:45

My pride tries to convince me that this is not a fair deal. But then I am reminded that I am both the righteous and the unrighteous.

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Mother Teresa: Dr. Pia de Solenni wrote an insightful article called, “What does Sandy Hook have to do with abortion?”

We could all argue about the connection between abortion and senseless killing in general. What struck me about the article was the profound quote from Mother Teresa:

“…back in 1994 when she spoke at the National Prayer Breakfast. She stood before President Clinton and the First Lady, both outspoken supporters of abortion and she said:

But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another?…

By abortion, the mother does not learn to love, but kills even her own child to solve her problems. And, by abortion, that father is told that he does not have to take any responsibility at all for the child he has brought into the world. The father is likely to put other women into the same trouble. So abortion just leads to more abortion. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. This is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion. [Full text here.]

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Blessed Pope John Paul II
Lifting Up and Begging in Prayer

The Old Baltimore Catechism gives us a beautiful definition of Prayer:

“Prayer is the lifting up of our minds and hearts to God, to adore Him, to thank Him for His benefits, to ask His forgiveness, and to beg of Him all the graces we need whether for soul or body.”

Lifting up and begging. God requires our effort.

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Angels Singing: When it comes to gift giving at Christmas, I am not very original or overly generous. I give a lot of gift cards and Bath and Body Works soap because I am Mrs. Practical. My husband, however, is extremely generous with everyone and likes especially to give the gift of music.

With 3 shopping days left, may I highly recommend and persuade you to buy everyone on your Christmas list The Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Apostles CD called Advent at Ephesus?

Go here to hear samples of their angelic voices.

It will lift their hearts to God and give them peace, the peace that surpasses all understanding, in this Holy Season.

God Bless You and Merry Christmas from The Veil of Chastity!

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7 Myths Singles Must Resist: Myth #2 Part 2 God Has Forgotten About Me

Posted on December 20, 2012 by theveilofchastity

My posts over the last several weeks addressed Myths that singles must resist:

1. Setting the Stage

2. Myth #1: Others are getting away with sin/sex is consequence free

3. Myth #2 Part 1: God has forgotten about me

Today I will address Myth #2 Part 2: God has forgotten about me: A Perspective on Suffering

As I stated in Part 1, I do not have all the answers. I am not a theologian or a philosopher. But, I am intimately familiar with feelings of being forgotten by God. I think we have all felt as if :

“My plight is hidden from the LORD, and my cause has passed out of God’s notice”

Isaiah 40:27

In Part 1, we established that God is real, He is intimate and you have His attention. But, I ended that post with this:

“…Life’s events may seem random and chaotic but they are not. He can bring order out of chaos. There is a plan for your life. And, it will involve….suffering.”

Even-Steven God

From my very limited perspective, suffering is not evenly distributed. Sometimes we suffer at the hands of others and sometimes we suffer due to our own decisions. Sometimes suffering’s origin is unknown and exasperating.

The first type of suffering is out of our hands and is, to me, impossible to understand without taking into account our gift of free will. Everyone has this gift of free will and their misuse of it will cause us to suffer. But, our suffering is not even. Some suffer terribly in this life. I mean, terribly! And, I can’t explain why.

“He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”

Matthew 5:45

Wouldn’t it seem fair if God was an Even-Steven God when it came to suffering? But, this would require Him to limit our free will. He won’t do that. Even if He decided to limit our free will, would you want him to?

It is the suffering in this world that can challenge our belief in God and Who He is. Satan knows this and delights in our suffering. Satan especially takes delight in the kind of suffering that leads us to ask “What kind of God would allow this?”

To answer that question: A God who has bestowed upon us the great gift free will.

A Perspective on Suffering

As I have shared before, I did not get married until I was 38 years old. I had every blessing I could think of (family, friends, faith, health, steady employment, a roof over my head and all the basic and some of the non-basic necessities) except for marriage and children. And, I still, at times, felt that God had forgotten about me. It is only in hindsight that I can see that my plight was not hidden from Him.

What I was not able to see at the time is that I did not have a proper perspective on my suffering. Back then, I was quick to notice that there were those that appeared ‘more blessed’ than I was. Grumble, grumble. But, I didn’t like to think about those who were ‘less fortunate.’

I avoided analyzing my ‘lot in life’ compared to orphans, the lonely and abandoned, the aborted, the sick, the terminally ill, the mentally ill, the starving, the unemployed and the homeless.

I still don’t have a handle on the allocation of blessings and suffering. These words from Isaiah ring true for me: “his understanding is unsearchable”

But then I asked myself, “Who is this God that allows for all this suffering?” One look at the crucifix and we see that He did not spare His own Son. He intimately ‘gets’ our suffering and our plight is not hidden from Him.

The Suffering of Singleness

My dear single girls, I am not trying to downplay your suffering by reminding you of the starving, homeless, unemployed, aborted and orphaned. Singleness is also a suffering!

I am not a theologian but from a Catholic perspective we know that our bodies are made to glorify God. The purpose of marriage and of our fertility is to glorify God. Not being able to fulfill this purpose is, I think, a special kind of suffering. As we celebrate the Immaculate Conception of Mary and miraculous conception and birth of Jesus, we see how family, fertility and life are not just “part” of our purpose and plan for salvation. They are The Plan.

The shape, form and intricate design of our bodies reveal this strong link to our fertility and femininity. Our bodies are oriented toward marital love…. to bonding and babies. I could be wrong but I think that God weeps over delayed and missed marriage vocations in a unique way. I feel confident that the plight of the single person is not hidden from Him nor has their cause passed out of His notice.

The Veil’s Wager

I am not going to try to sugarcoat it. We are at the mercy of other’s free will. But, we have our own gift of free will where we can choose to believe in God, to be intimate with Him and to give Him our love, devotion and attention. We can choose to bind our sufferings to His and bring about redemption and purpose. We can choose faith and hope over doubt and despair.

“Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.”

Psalm 62:5

Remain chaste and stay close to our good Lord in the Sacraments. Pray for faith, hope, patience and insight into God’s purpose for your life. I request this of you because if you don’t, Satan, the father of all lies, will play havoc with your mind. Satan will convince you that suffering is pointless and that God has forgotten about you.

God is real. He is intimate. He is mysterious. He has not forgotten about you. Your cause is not hidden from Him, especially in the midst of your suffering.

** Next week: My First Book Review: Woman In Love ~ by Katie Hartfiel

God Bless!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 8

Posted on December 14, 2012 by theveilofchastity

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Myth #2 Busted: This week’s post is the second of 7 explaining the Myths That Singles Must Resist.

This week’s Mythbuster: God has forgotten about me

I decided to break it up into two posts since it is a tough topic. I pray it blesses you in your walk with the Lord!

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Mountains and Valleys: Haven’t the readings this week of Advent been beautiful! They have focused on our need to make straight the highway for the Lord.

“A voice cries out: In the desert prepare the way of the LORD! Make straight in the wasteland a highway for our God! Every valley shall be filled in, every mountain and hill shall be made low; The rugged land shall be made a plain, the rough country, a broad valley.”

Isaiah 40:3-4

What are the mountains in our lives that need to be brought down to clear the way for the Lord? What are the valleys that need to be filled in to make the highway smooth for Him?

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Confession: It clears the obstacles and smooths the potholes in our lives. Have you set aside a date to receive this most important Sacrament of healing during Advent? What a gift to our Lord your preparing the way will be. And, what a gift His healing will be for you!

I will be examining both the mountains and the valleys in my life. What are my sins of commission (the obstacles) that I need to stop doing in order to clear the obstacles? What are my sins of omission (the potholes) that I need to start doing in order to fill in the potholes?

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A Staircase Rosary: I am not a good ‘faster’ of food. Due to my tendency for low blood sugar, fasting makes me somewhat unable to function. Oh, and it makes me really cranky. But, I have not been able to find a medical excuse for fasting from exercise.

A little over a year ago I started hula-hooping at home. I also started an exercise program at work. I started climbing the stairs 4 times a day. The bonus is that I have been saying my prayers during the stair climbing first thing in the morning.

I work on the third floor and there are a little over 60 steps in each staircase. Doing 60 stairs 4 times a day 4 times a week ended up being almost 1000 steps per week or 4000 steps per month.

Recently, I decided to up my stair climbing commitment to 10 times a day…..or a decade. Sort of like an exercise Rosary. This new commitment will allow me to climb almost 10,000 steps a month. And it only takes about 10 minutes a day!

At first, my muscles protested from all the use and I was winded by the time I reach the top of the staircase. It is interesting to me that, like a virtue and a good habit, the more I do it, the easier it becomes. My muscles and lungs are getting conditioned.

If you are trying to overcome a bad habit or vice, it will obviously be challenging at first. You might get winded from the climb. If you are trying to instill a good habit or virtue, keep in mind that your new muscles will protest. But, with persistence and God’s grace, it will get smoother.

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Every Step I Take: Speaking of stairs, my Mom told me that the Sisters taught her in school that each time you climb a step to offer it up for the souls in purgatory. They taught her to say, “Every step I take is for the poor suffering souls in purgatory.” To this day, she recites this for every step.

There are times that I do not want to do my Staircase Rosary and there are times I look at the elevator and tell myself that would be the easier way. But, as a member of the Church Militant, I remind myself that overcoming this temptation can be a powerful tool for those that are suffering. When I get tempted to cop-out, I say to myself, “I will offer this up for my sister or my friend from work” who are both going through Cancer treatment. I have faith that it makes a difference.

What other ways can we strengthen the Church Militant?

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Burst Into Flame And You Did Not Burn: Saint Amadeus of Lausanne (1108-1159), Cistercian monk and Bishop wrote this about our Blessed Mother, Mary:

“The Holy Spirit will come upon you.” He will arise within you, Mary. In some saints he has come; in others he will come; but in you he will arise… He will arise by means of the fertility, the abundance, the fullness of his outpouring in your being. Even when he has filled you, he will yet be upon you; he will sweep over your waters to create in you a work greater and more admirable than when, hovering over the waters at the beginning, he brought created substance into being in all its various forms (Gn 1,2). “And the power of the Most High will overshadow you.” Christ, the power and wisdom of God, will overshadow you. Then he will take human nature from you while keeping the fullness of God, which you are unable to bear, even as he assumes our flesh. He will take you beneath his shadow because the humanity to be taken by the Word is to be a screen for the inaccessible light of God. This light, filtered by its screen, will penetrate your most chaste womb…

We therefore pray you, Sovereign Lady, most worthy Mother of God, do not despise today those who ask with fear, who seek with devotion, who knock with love. We pray you, tell us what feelings moved you, what love seized you… when this was accomplished in you, when the Word took flesh from you? In what state was your soul, your heart, your spirit, your senses, your mind? You burst into flame like the bush that was shown to Moses long ago and you did not burn, (Ex 3,2). You dissolved away in God but were not consumed. Burning, you melted beneath the fire from on high yet regained strength from that fire divine to burn again and dissolve once more in him… You became more virgin still – and more than virgin because both virgin and mother. Therefore we greet you, full of grace: the Lord is with you. You are blessed among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb.”

Isn’t that a beautiful Advent meditation!?!?!

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Divine Utterances: There are so many powerful reasons to be Catholic! How about these gorgeous words from one of our many brilliant a Doctors of the Church:

“You nourished me with spiritual milk, the milk of your divine utterances. You sustained me with the solid food of the Body of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Your most holy, Only-begotten Son. You gave me to drink of the divine chalice of his life-giving Blood, which he shed for salvation of the whole world.”

Saint John Damascene (c.675-749), monk, theologian, Doctor of the Church

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7 Myths Singles Must Resist: Myth #2 God Has Forgotten About Me

Posted on December 13, 2012 by theveilofchastity

My posts over the last several weeks addressed Myths that singles must resist. In the first post of the series, I set the stage for the remaining 7 posts. I addressed Myth #1 two weeks ago and today I will address Myth #2: God has forgotten about me.

Myth #2 will be the most difficult because I do not have all the answers. I am not a theologian or a philosopher. But, I am intimately familiar with feelings of being forgotten by God.

“Why do you complain, O Jacob, And you, O Israel, why do you say, “My plight is hidden from the LORD, and my cause has passed out of God’s notice”? Have you not known? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”

Isaiah 40:27-31

The verse from Isaiah above reveals that His people have always dealt with this feeling of “passing out of God’s notice.” When you are single well beyond your hoped-to-be-married time, it can feel as if you have passed out of God’s notice.

In order to tackle this myth, we must first ask some very philosophical questions: Is God real? Who is God? What is our purpose?

These questions will be tackled in three parts. Each part will be progressively more difficult to explain and accept. I will discuss number one and two this week and conclude with number three next week.

Pascal’s Wager
Distant or Intimate? Chaos or Order?
A Perspective on Suffering

Pascal’s Wager

“In faith there is enough light for those who want to believe and enough shadows to blind those who don’t.”

Blaise Pascal

In order to answer the question “Does God forget about us?”, we must first establish that He exists. Pascal’s wager, simply stated in my non-philosophical way, teaches us that if God does exist, then it benefits us to live our life in friendship with Him. Because if He does exist and we live our life as if He doesn’t exist, then we have a lot to lose; namely Heaven. And, we have something to fear, namely the pains of Hell.

If, on the other hand, God doesn’t exist and we live our life as if He does, then we have nothing to lose. We just die and our soulless bodies rot after living a life of trying earnestly to not harm ourselves or our neighbor.

So, logically it makes sense for us to live as if and wager that He does exist. Unless we can be 100% sure that He does not exist…..which we can’t.

Once we make the logical wager that He does exist, then we must ask ourselves Who He is? Is He a distant God or an intimate God? Is He a God of chaos or a God of order?

Distant or Intimate?

“What is your opinion? If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them goes astray, will he not leave the ninety-nine in the hills and go in search of the stray? And if he finds it, amen, I say to you, he rejoices more over it than over the ninety-nine that did not stray. In just the same way, it is not the will of your heavenly Father that one of these little ones be lost.”

Matthew 18:12-14

To be honest, I grew up with the notion that God was a distant keeper of rules. It has only been over time that I see His intimate love and involvement in my life.

Maybe becoming a parent has helped me with this renewed vision of God. Once you have a child, you begin to understand God a little more. You understand the strong feelings of love, protectiveness and potential heartbreak. You begin to understand the difficulty of training and disciplining a child and then allowing for the gift of free will to manifest itself in that child’s life.

It is similar to, I think, how God parents us. First, He trains us. Then, He gives us the long leash of free will. While we are in training, He can feel a little like a taskmaster. While we wonder away on our long leash, He can feel distant. But, His love, protectiveness and attachment to outcome are constant. He allows us to break His heart.

“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.”

Matthew 10:30

I always heard people say “God loves you!” and I would silently say to myself, “So what? He loves everyone. I am not special to Him.” Ouch. That was hard to admit. But, I think I was putting human limits on God. He is not like a parent who has to divide His time and attention between His children. There is infinitely enough of Him to go around. He can ‘pay attention’ to me and the rest of the gazillion humans He created, all at the same time. And, He does not have ‘favorites.’ We are all equally favored by Him. I don’t know how He does it. He is God. He is all-knowing, all-loving and all-powerful.

So, let’s conclude He is real and He is intimate and you have His attention. Just how involved is He in the details?

Chaos or Order?

This part is hard to prove or explain because sin produces chaos in our life and in the world. And, our finite minds cannot fathom the ways of our Lord. But, when I look at the Old Testament and at the design of the universe and our bodies, I see a God of order. When I look at salvation history, I see a God that allows for our free will and allows for chaos but somehow brings order and goodness out of it all. Again, how He does it, I do not know.

Our part in the order of things is critical. That is why Chastity is so important. Unchaste behavior is morally disordered and adds to the chaos.

“Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.” (CCC 2351)

The Fall of Man has brought chaos and disorder into the world but you can avoid adding to it by living a chaste life.

Morally disordered unchaste behavior also leads you into darkness. This darkness and confusion can convince you that God has forgotten about you. It can convince you that life’s events are random. But they are not. God can bring order out of chaos. You are not left to your own devices.

God is real. He is intimate. He is mysterious. He has not forgotten about you. Your cause is not hidden from Him.

There is a plan for your life. And, it will involve….suffering.

** Next week: I will conclude this myth with Part 2: A Perspective on Suffering

God Bless!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 7

Posted on December 7, 2012 by theveilofchastity

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The theme of this week’s QTs will be: God chases all of us.

This week’s blog post features guest blogger, Amanda from Worthy of Agape. Please go check out her beautiful and inspiring ‘God chases all of us’ story. Thank you, Amanda!

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Barbara Curtis: My Mom, who is completely electronic media-free, sometimes knows more about what is going on in the world than I do simply because she reads newspapers. Over Thanksgiving, she told me about a 64-year old woman who died suddenly on Oct 30^th. The woman was a ‘local’ from my hometown area and she was a writer in our Diocesan paper. Little did I know the impact this woman, Barbara Curtis, would have on me.

Barbara Curtis was the mother of 12 children. When I heard that I thought, “Oh, she was a life-long counter-cultural Catholic with a large family.” But, when I looked deeper, I found out that God had completely transformed her life and that she only converted to the Catholic Faith 5 years ago. The rest of the QTs will reveal what an amazing woman Barbara was and how God truly does chase all of us.

None of us live a life of perfect obedience to God. We all fail Him. But, these stories of sin, redemption and transformation glorify God in a way that is, for me, sometimes more moving than a life of obedience. I look at these stories and the crucifix makes sense to me. It becomes…. captivating. It becomes…desirable.

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12 Children: Barbara and her husband, Tripp, have 12 children. Child #8 was born with Down’s Syndrome. So, they decided to adopt 3 more children with Down’s Syndrome.

Blink. blink.

This act of courage and love left me speechless.

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Child #9: Barbara and Tripp’s 9^th child, Maddy Curtis, was a contestant on American Idol. Take a listen to her here. The clip shows a 16-year old Maddy talking about her Down’s Syndrome siblings just before her audition on American Idol.

She said, “The four boys bring out the best in every person they meet. They see the world in colors and we need to see the world that way.”

For her audition, she sang an amazing and soulful version of Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah.”

Notice what the judges say about Maddy. They notice that she is different from other 16- year old contestants in that she is “not annoying.” I think what they mean is that she is unspoiled and humble. These priceless characteristics in a child are often a result of being in a large family…. especially a family that embraces the imperfect among us.

After being eliminated from American Idol, Maddy decided to raise money for Haiti Relief. She performed a one-woman show which sold out two full houses at Franklin Park Performing Arts Center in Purcellville, VA January 31, 2010. All for charity.

She has the voice of an angel and she uses it for good. This is another priceless characteristic. To know our gifts and talents are from God and they are to be applied for good….for His glory.

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Pro-life: When I hear of large families, I assume they are and always have been pro-life. But, this is the part that brought me to tears. Barbara has not always been pro-life. As a matter of fact, when you read this, you see that she was a strong advocate in the pro-abortion movement in her mid-20’s. In that same article she reveals her own tragic involvement in abortion.

I know of several girls who have had abortions and most of the time, their lives spiral downward. The impact of their abortion lingers long after they participate in the death of their children.

But, Barbara’s life spiraled upward to the glory of God. God’s grace and her cooperation with Him completely transformed her life. Her life and heart were transformed to the point where she became a significant witness to the world. She showed us that all life is precious, including those shunned by the world.

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Lord?: Barbara died of a massive stroke. The funeral Mass included her children singing a four-part a cappella version of ‘Abide with Me.’ One of the Down’s Syndrome children let out a wail of distress during the Mass. The beauty of these children is that their emotions are real. They honestly express what we are afraid to feel and express.

I did not know Barbara Curtis and my heart wailed “Why her Lord?” She has all those babies (I call all children babies…even the grown ones) who need her. She is such a witness to the Faith and the pro-life cause. How can You take her life?

But, God is the Author of life and of death. He creates life and allows us the privilege of co-creating with Him. And He calls us home according to His will and perfect plan.

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Saints Among Us: Barbara became a Christian about 25 years ago and she entered the fullness of the faith when she converted to the Catholic Faith in 2007. God chased her and she cooperated with Him. Her life was completely transformed.

But, the first half of her life was tragic and left many emotional scars. She was a survivor of her parent’s divorce, she battled alcoholism, suffered neglect and spent much of her young life in foster homes after her Father abandoned the family. She was a former radical leftist, feminist and abortion activist. But, God chased her and transformed her.

Barbara homeschooled her children and had a long-running blog called Mommylife.net. She was a writer for the Arlington Catholic Herald. She wrote nine books and more than 1,200 articles during her professional career. She was a certified Montessori teacher with a bachelor’s degree in philosophy.

Barbara was strongly pro-life not only in word, but in deed.

It is people like Barbara who motivate me to do more, to be more and to love more. She convicted me as a Mother in this article with her simple recipe for success: All you have to do is sit down to a family dinner. Because she had ‘walked the walk’ and had raised 12 children, I put a lot of merit in her advice. I was immediately motivated to enact this ‘sit down to a family dinner’ change in our home and we have already experienced blessings from her ‘simple recipe for success.’

Reading about her life enlarged my heart and called me to open my heart to life, love, redemption, transformation and grace the way she did. These are the Saints among us. Thank you, Barbara.

God bless the Curtis family and may the soul of Barbara, who has faithfully departed us, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

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Guest Blogger ~ Amanda Mortus!

Posted on December 6, 2012 by theveilofchastity

The blog world is such a blessing to us Catholics! What a wonderful way to collaborate with and initiate friendships with other faithful Catholics. I am honored to welcome my new bloggy friend, Amanda from Worthy of Agape as this week’s guest blogger!

Amanda is a Youth Minister and is in the trenches doing battle for young souls. In a recent interview, she said, “My heart has been so set on fire for women’s ministry that I wrote a book about the lies that Satan tells women, how Jesus triumphs over those lies, and how to live out His powerful love in our lives.”

Good Girls Only?

To some, my blog and the concept of The Veil can appear to be a club just for “good” girls. It definitely is not! My blog is for all girls who have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). So that would include all of us! We have all taken our own path to this place.

Some have been able to maintain the virtue of Chastity (yay, keep going!). Some have not maintained Chastity but are now more committed than ever (yay for redemption!). And, some are thinking about giving up on their commitment to Chastity (nooo, keep reading!!).

Amanda’s story and the concept of The Veil are for all of us because we all need to be reminded of our frailty in this area. We all need Truth. We also need to be encouraged to seek first our holy God for He is the source of all strength.

God chases all of us. As Matt Maher says, all you’ve got to do is….turn around.

The Peace Of Certainty

Sometimes, I think the reality of The Veil and the beauty and power of Chastity are more easily seen by those who have struggled with unchaste behavior. The proverbial scales fall off and eyesight is restored. The certainty, peace and clarity that result are powerful. The witness of God’s love and mercy is very moving. Amanda’s story is both powerful and moving.

You can follow Amanda on Twitter @worthyofAgape and “like” her Facebook page to stay encouraged in your walk with our Lord and to stay informed on the progress of her book, Worthy. I can’t wait to read it!

Thank you, Amanda for sharing your beautiful story of redemption and for this gorgeous note of encouragement for all of us!

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I’ll be perfectly honest, when Cindy asked me to write a guest post about the concept of the veil, chastity and living life as a young, yet unmarried Catholic, I had a pretty strong feeling where God was calling me…and I wanted to run in the opposite direction. I’ve slowly felt the Lord working on my heart and preparing me to share more of my story with the world and every time I feel Him working on my heart I want to throw up the walls and crawl into a hole. But that just won’t work, nor will it make Him very happy, so here goes nothing.

The truth is that I haven’t been 100% chaste in my life so far. I’ve made mistakes, and a lot of them. At one point I told people that my new address was the confessional at my local parish. I had a semester in college, which I refer to as my “stupid decisions” semester. I drank a lot (despite the fact that I was not of age) and hung out with the entirely wrong crowd. I got myself into a lot of sticky situations, and looking back now it is so obvious to me that the Lord and my lovely guardian angel kept me out of any real harm. After college I started dating a guy very seriously, though our relationship wasn’t very pure. We pushed the limits on a lot of physical boundaries. In the end it only led to a lot of heartache when, after nearly a year of dating, he told me that he wasn’t in love with me and never had been, despite the fact that we’d been telling each other “I love you” for nearly nine months. He said that just because he wasn’t in love with me didn’t mean the relationship needed to end. I disagreed and walked away confused, hurt, and even angry.

The next serious relationship I entered started out as hands-down the holiest, most beautiful relationship I had ever been in. We went to Mass together, we prayed the Rosary together daily (even if we were across town, we prayed it at the same time). A number of our friends said that we were the picture perfect couple. Eventually, we got lazy. We stopped going to daily Mass together as frequently, we stopped praying the Rosary together or at all. As our prayer lives suffered our physical temptations increased and once again I found myself in a relationship that pushed more physical boundaries than I care to admit. A few months after we’d given up our prayer life together we made a committed effort to get back to it, in part because we wanted to kick the physical temptations, but also because we knew we had erred in losing our ultimate focus: God. Sad to say that perhaps it was too little too late, but eventually that relationship ended too, leaving me more broken-hearted than the first. In truth, I hadn’t guarded my heart. I was so emotionally invested in the relationship and our future together that I had stopped asking God if this was really where He wanted me, so when the relationship ended I was crushed.

I have, for quite some time, loved learning about the Holy of Holies and the concepts of the Ark of the Covenant as well as the curtain or veil that guards the Holy of Holies. When I first read Cindy’s concept of the veil I felt my heart leap for joy! YES! This is spot on! I’ve lived it, but not in the way I would recommend others to live it. I’ve tried (clearly) to lift my veil before it was time and before God wanted me to. I fought with all of my might to lift that veil and let someone enter the Holy of Holies (a.k.a. my heart), regardless of the fact that God wasn’t the one lifting that veil. I can promise you, based on my own experiences, that it only leads to hurt and heartache – things I wouldn’t wish for anyone. Because I tried to lift that veil before it’s appointed time (see Ecclesiastes 3:1-8), I was left feeling insecure and unsure of myself, my worth as a woman and child of God, and of the relationships I was in. Instead of clinging to God, I clung to the relationships with all that I had because they became all I knew.

When those relationships ended I was left alone with a God who had been patiently waiting for me to be washed in His love. He washed me clean. He restored me, reminded me (and continues to remind me) of my worthiness and His unconditional love for me. He’s lowered the portions of the veil I foolishly tried to raise and granted me the patience to wait for His time. I know now that His time is better than mine. Saint Catherine of Siena said that “everything short of God must and will disappoint you.” Her words are exactly true because in my attempt to raise the veil before its appointed time I tried to make myself and those other relationships my God, so they naturally had to disappoint me. Those relationships had to end, and now I see that those guys ending those relationships was actually the most loving thing they could have done for me because it thrust me back into the loving arms of God. No matter which side of the veil you find yourself on, there is a God who is waiting for you and inviting you into the Holy of Holies, into His glorious and loving heart. The invitation is always there and He is patiently and lovingly waiting for you to accept. Will you?

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Next Week: Myth #2 Busted: God Has Forgotten About Me

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 6

Posted on November 30, 2012 by theveilofchastity

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Myth #1 Busted: This week’s post is the first of 7 explaining the Myths That Singles Must Resist. I pray it blesses you in your walk with the Lord!

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Next Week’s Guest Post: Guest blogger Amanda from worthyofAgape.com will share her gorgeous ‘God chases all of us’ story. Have your tissues ready!

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Health: I have been sick since the day before Thanksgiving and finally went to the doctors on Monday. Thank you, God for the blessing of antibiotics and Inhaler medication.

Antibiotics: My grandmother died at a young age of pneumonia because antibiotics were not readily available at the time. So, I have a deep respect and appreciation for the availability of this medication. I also feel passionate about (that is code for when someone has “issues”) the inevitable Superbug that we are creating with the over use of the medicine and hand soaps/sanitizers.

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Solemnity of Christ The King: Because I was sick, I did not attend Mass Sunday, The Solemnity of Christ The King. My husband, of course, went to Mass and when he came home his wool dress coat smelled divine from the beautiful incense at Mass. Ahhhhh………

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Dr. Alice von Hildebrand
She looks very sweet but she is a firecracker! Love her!

Alice von Hildebrand: Being ill this week has given me the opportunity to research one of my favorite people, Alice von Hildebrand. Since I was home alone, I watched this entire one-hour video without interruption! Here are some highlights, some of which come during the Q&A at the end:

As a result of the Fall of Man, the relationship between our body and our soul is in constant tension. Our struggle is to find harmony and the only way to do this is through Christ.
Because Man revolted against God, the body started to revolt against the soul. Now, the body no longer obeys the dictates of the soul.
Marriages are going to pieces and collapsing because unless there is harmony between our body and our soul, it is almost impossible for us to properly relate to the opposite sex.
Addiction is when you find that you are deprived of your freedom.
“The main goal of education is to train a child to achieve victory over pleasure” Plato
The most important virtue is Reverence which is a response to what is noble. The response is a feeling of trembling awe. Learn reverence and simultaneously you will be a happier human being because it is beautiful.
The dignity of the mystery of the female body.
If you want to change the world, change yourself.
Protest abortion with a spirit of sorrow.

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Sweet Marcus Grodi

Leah Darrow and The Journey Home: After watching this episode of The Journey Home, I am now a huge fan of Leah Darrow. I had heard of her but never knew her story. Wow! Very, very powerful and beautiful conversion from the lies of the world to the Truth of Chastity.

Oh, and is Marcus Grodi the sweetest Man ever or what? When Leah shows her beautiful tears of remorse, he went to a special commercial break in order to get her some tissues.

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Wisdom: Dorothy Cummings blogs over at Seraphic Singles and she wrote the book, “The Closet’s All Mine.” She had a very wise blog post explaining why it is never wise for the female to say “I Love You” first. Here are some highlights:

“…it is more important than ever for men to travel uninterrupted through the great adventure called Winning the Girl…”

“…I think it very important for a boy, especially one who generally acts like he owns the universe, to have to take the big huge risk of laying his heart before a woman, not being quite sure if she will pick it up, or just give it back, or even stomp on it. This kind of action makes a boy into a man, no matter what happens….”

“…And it is awful for a man to be 100% sure a woman thinks she loves him when he isn’t sure if he loves her. His natural reaction is very likely to be running away and pondering things in his cave, like Grendel. There he thinks thinks like “How badly do I want to get married?” and “Do I really want to get married?” and “Do I perhaps have a vocation to the priesthood instead?” and “Does love feel like this?” and “Why am I sweating like a pig?” How tragic if all he needed was just some time….”

“…Above all, don’t tell a guy you love him just to make him say “I love you.” Tempting, very tempting, but a bad idea in the long run….”

My Summary: If a guy does not tell you he loves you, then assuming he doesn’t is a safe and wise assumption. If he does, then what would prevent him from telling you? Oh, yes, it is risky. Is he waiting for you to say it first? Trouble, trouble!

The Veil: The One that God intends for you to marry will love you, will tell you that he loves you and he will be willing to take the risk of saying it first.

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7 Myths Singles Must Resist: Myth #1 Others Are Getting Away With Sin

Posted on November 30, 2012 by theveilofchastity

Last week I set the stage in this post for the remaining 7 posts in this series. Each of the 7 posts will address a myth that singles must resist. As you read each myth, keep in mind that Satan is real, the Fall of Man is real, you are in a Spiritual battle for your mind, your body and your perspective, and you must use your weapons! The take away from today’s post: God is Perfect Justice. Okay, here we go!

Myth #1: Other people are getting away with sin/sex is Consequence-free.

In my book, the chapter that addresses this myth is called “No One Is Getting Away With Anything.” In this chapter, I share the statistics of sexual sin, cohabitation and contraception as well as the fallout of those sins on society. I share overall trends that I have noticed over time. And, I share specific stories but change the details enough to protect the good reputation of others.

What I have noticed is that the suffering from cohabitation, fornication and contraception does not always happen right away. Sin is tricky that way. It looks all fine and dandy at first in order to lure us in. The goal is to make us think we are not doing anything wrong and that there will be no consequences. But, sins’ purpose is to destroy us and make us suffer. It takes its sweet time but you can depend upon it.

But, what about those of you who are waiting patiently and chastely? Why does it seem that others are going about their business, fornicating, living together, getting big diamond rings, getting married, contracepting and then having babies on demand without any consequences? Well, I want to reassure you that no one is getting away with anything. Give it time. It is a natural spiritual law. We go against our design, we suffer. In order to be redeemed, we suffer.

Not So Fine And Dandy

What you, young reader, are observing is the “fine and dandy” part and it may be leading you to believe that other people are getting away with these sins. But, rest assured, the destruction and suffering will come. I don’t say that in a way that takes delight in their future suffering. I say it as a truth that I would encourage you to meditate on as you make your decisions in the future regarding chastity.

If you are tempted to move in with your boyfriend, fornicate or contracept before or after marriage and if you falsely believe there will be no consequences, this myth-buster is for you.

The Benefit Of Age

In my book I share stories of situations where people seem to be getting away with sin. I also share the ‘here is what happened later’ details. I have this insight and perspective because I have 10, 15, maybe even 20 years on most of you reading this blog.

But, instead of giving you those ‘here is what happened to those sinners’ details, let’s instead go through this truth logically by acknowledging God’s character: God is perfectly just, patient, merciful and determined to have us with Him in heaven.

The Character of God

God’s perfect justice is the good news and the bad news. It is good because we can count on Him to sort it all out and ensure the no one gets away with anything. It is bad because we are also subject to His perfect justice. God set up laws that we must follow. But, like any loving Father, He ensures that with disobedience comes consequences and with obedience comes reward.

God is the very definition of Perfect Justice. He set up laws and each one has a purpose. He then lovingly enforces the laws and allows for the consequences to manifest themselves. But, we do not know ahead of time how He will enforce the law or the timing of the consequences of our sins. So, our limited perspective leads us to believe that others are getting away with sin. But, we must remember, His ways are not our ways.

God’s patience is what keeps Him from enacting harsh consequences on us immediately upon our sin. His mercy gives us a chance to repent. But, His determination prevents Him from letting us get away with our sin. So, God set up a system that kicks in when we go against our design. This system, or natural law, when violated, is often revealed in suffering and destruction.

We are not designed to cohabitate, fornicate or contracept. When we do, His system of loving consequences kicks in.

Loving Consequences

There are other laws you might recognize such as the scientific laws of gravity, physics and thermodynamics. For example, if you jump off of a bridge, the law of gravity automatically kicks in. It doesn’t matter if you are a good person or a bad person. You will fall toward the earth. It is a negative consequence that results from going against the physical law of gravity.

The natural spiritual laws and the consequences of what we do with our bodies are also automatic. There is no need for God to “manage” the affairs in this area and dole out punishment. He already set up the system to protect us from going against our design and this same system results in negative consequences when we do go against our design.

Again, these natural spiritual laws were put in place to protect us when we start to creep toward danger. The same laws teach us through negative consequences when we violate them.

But, most importantly, these laws allow us to be holy and therefore happy, when we obey them. Because we are working within our design rather than constantly suffering from consequences, we are happy and content. We are ‘at one’ with our bodies and ‘at one’ with our Maker Who loves us and allows us to suffer the consequences when we separate ourselves from Him through sin.

Unlike the laws of gravity, the consequences of violating these natural laws don’t always kick in immediately. So, for a time, people may appear to be getting away with sin.

Where Is My Reward?

I wish I could guarantee you that your obedience is going to result in a reward designed by you. But, I can’t. God is not a vending machine. We cannot drop in our coins of obedience and then select the reward buttons we desire expecting them to drop to the bottom for us to grab.

I also cannot guarantee that you will witness God’s perfect justice played out in consequences for those that cohabitate, fornicate and contracept. Their life here on earth may appear to be completely consequence-free. But, remind yourself that you do not have the inside scoop nor do you know the end of the story. Don’t let pride and conceit enter your heart. Humbly take your eyes off of them. It is not your business. Close your eyes and remind yourself of God’s perfect justice and that thankfully, He chases all of us.

The Blessing Or The Curse

“Behold, I set before you this day a blessing and a curse. The blessing if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you this day; And the curse if you will not obey the commandments of the Lord your God, but turn aside from the way which I command you this day to go after other gods, which you have not known.” Deuteronomy 11:26-28

I know a holy Jewish man who always says with a smile, “Your reward will be your lack of punishment.” I have the type of personality which thinks that is a pretty good deal. I don’t want punishment. I want to know what is expected of me by my Loving Father. And, I can accept that the blessing that comes from doing what is expected of me will be my reward. The reward will be that I will be in a loving relationship, rather than a rebellious relationship with my Maker and my body. I can choose this blessing.

I don’t want to mislead you. Chastity and my Veil theory are not a formula for getting what you want. Instead, the concept is offered as a way of encouraging you to stay in His will. He wants you there. It matters to Him. You matter to Him. He has a plan for you that can only be manifested by your obedience. Are you not curious to see what He has for you? Apply your God-given gift of free will and choose obedience. Choose the blessing and not the curse.

Yes, others are going to cohabitate, fornicate and contracept. I had to learn to take my eyes off them. I had to trust that God loves them too and that His perfect justice will prevail. I had to learn that, sometimes, their story of repentance and redemption is just as beautiful as a life of obedience.

None of us are designed to cohabitate, fornicate or contracept and none of us will get away with unrepented sin. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus. Do not look around and wonder why others seem to be getting away with sin. Keep your mind bathed in the truth of Sacred Scripture. And, keep your body holy through Chastity and the grace of a Sacramental life.

God bless!

** In two weeks I will present the Myth#2: God has forgotten about me

** Next Week: Guest blogger Amanda from worthyofAgape.com will share her gorgeous ‘God chases all of us’ story. Have your tissues ready!

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7 Quick Takes Friday ~ Vol 5

Posted on November 23, 2012 by theveilofchastity

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This week’s 7 Quick Takes will have a Thanksgiving theme. I will focus on the beautiful aspects of life for which I am grateful.

Truth: This week’s blog post sets up the foundation for the myths that singles must fight against. I will share 7 myths over the next several weeks and will combat them with the truth. Truth is beautiful!

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The Thirsting: Check out this beautiful song by Catholic artists The Thirsting. The song is called My Soul.

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Jackie Francios: She. Is. Fantastic! Check out this amazing video of Jackie Francios. It starts out slow but builds to….WOW. It is 43 minutes long but you won’t regret watching it.

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Divine Mercy Chaplet: Each Sunday evening as I fold the laundry, I play this CD and pray for all the people and petitions placed on my heart. For those of you that have written to me on my blog, I have added you to my weekly devotion.

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Switchfoot: Check out this beautiful song by the Christian band Switchfoot. The song is called Your Love is a Song.

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Suffering: How in the world is suffering beautiful you might ask? Check out this episode of The Choices We Face. It features Father John Riccardo. I feel so blessed to be Catholic.

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Generation Life: If I had a million dollars, I would ensure that each diocese had a Generation Life missionary team sharing the dignity of the human person and the beauty of the virtue of Chastity!!!

Here is their Company Mission Statement: Generation Life is a movement of young people committed to building a Culture of Life by educating our peers on the pro-life and chastity messages and developing new leaders for the pro-life movement. We believe that by spreading the message of chastity, we can end abortion at the root cause.

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7 Myths Singles Must Resist: Setting the Stage

Posted on November 22, 2012 by theveilofchastity

I remember when I was single and how easy it was for me to believe ideas that were simply untrue. But, because I didn’t have the benefit of hindsight, I wasn’t able to put these false ideas and myths into perspective. I now have the benefit of hindsight and my hope is that by sharing this perspective with you, it will help you fight against some of the common myths which can vex the single life.

I will be expanding on 1 myth per week but first I want to set the stage for you and build a foundation to help you resist and understand the root of these myths.

Yes, Satan Is Real

Again, I am setting the stage for you so that each of these myths will make sense in light of its origin. The father of all lies, Satan, wants you to believe these myths because they make God, our Holy Loving Father, look like an unjust, stingy and uncaring God who has left us to fend for ourselves.

“The power of Satan is, nonetheless, not infinite. He is only a creature, powerful from the fact that he is pure spirit, but still a creature. He cannot prevent the building up of God’s reign. Although Satan may act in the world out of hatred for God and his kingdom in Christ Jesus, and although his action may cause grave injuries – of a spiritual nature and, indirectly, even of a physical nature ~ to each man and to society, the action is permitted by divine providence which with strength and gentleness guides human and cosmic history. It is a great mystery that providence should permit diabolical activity, but “we know that in everything God works for good with those who love him.”

Catechism of the Catholic Church #395

The Old and New Eve

Yes, The Fall of Mankind Is Real

Because of the Fall of Mankind, we are wounded, weak and subject to ignorance, suffering, sin and death. We need to be protected from Satan’s lies and we need to be healed by God. We need to choose the way of the New Eve.

“Although it is proper to each individual, original sin does not have the character of a personal fault in any of Adam’s descendants. It is a deprivation of original holiness and justice, but human nature has not been totally corrupted: it is wounded in the natural powers proper to it, subject to ignorance, suffering and the dominion of death, and inclined to sin – an inclination to evil that is called concupiscence“. Baptism, by imparting the life of Christ’s grace, erases original sin and turns a man back towards God, but the consequences for nature, weakened and inclined to evil, persist in man and summon him to spiritual battle.

Catechism of the Catholic Church#405

You are in a spiritual battle so use your weapons!

In her book, Passion and Purity, Elisabeth Elliot writes:

“If there is an Enemy of Souls (and I have not the slightest doubt that there is), one thing he cannot abide (put up with) is the desire for purity. Hence a man or woman’s passions become his battleground. The Lover of Souls does not prevent this. I was perplexed because it seemed to me He should prevent it, but He doesn’t. He wants us to use our weapons.”

A Three-Pronged Attack

There are 3 main ways that Satan attacks us when we are single: Through our minds, our bodies and our eyes.

Our Minds: Our minds are very powerful. If Satan can influence us through our thought life, then he can gain a foothold. If Satan can convince us that God doesn’t care about us and that sin doesn’t matter, then we are more prone to following our sinful inclinations to cohabitate, fornicate and contracept. If he can convince us that God is distant, unjust and stingy, we will surely fall into despair.

Our Bodies: Our bodies are made to glorify God. When you cohabitate, fornicate and contracept, you are living outside of your design. I believe when you live outside the design of your body and you will eventually hate your body. If Satan can influence us to the point where we hate or misuse our bodies, then he is ecstatic! His pride swells because our bodies, as evidenced by the Incarnation, are holy. Satan hates holiness and thrives on the profane.

Our Eyes: Our eyes influence our perspective. What we see becomes our reality. It takes effort, prayer and Sacramental grace to overcome what we see and instead believe that there is another realm of reality. This other reality is the realm of the supernatural, the holy, the sublime and the mysterious. It is where truth can be found. But, the lies from Satan tempt us to take our eyes off of Jesus and instead focus on and believe what we see in the natural, human, physical realm. We see others cohabitate, fornicate and contracept and we think there are no consequences.

Use Your Weapons!

Your Mind: Protect your mind by shielding it from media (TV, books, websites) which are unholy and secular. Instead, frequent Catholic Blogs which are faithful to the Magisterium. Read Catholic literature and the writings of the Saints and Doctors of the Church. Participate only in holy conversation. Most importantly, bathe your mind in the wisdom and truth found in Sacred Scripture. Read something from your bible every day to transform your mind. The scripture below from Deuteronomy can be translated into: “Memorized these truths and write them on your forehead!”

“…Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads…”. Deuteronomy 11:18

Your Body: Protect your body with the virtue of Chastity. Bathe yourself in the Sacraments and glorify God with your body. Glorify God with modesty and by celebrating your fertility. Honor its miracle and power.

“…Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship…” Romans 12:1

Your Eyes: Because of the Fall of mankind, our eyes are in need of healing. We see others cohabitate, fornicate and contracept and we are easily misled. Medicate your eyes with prayer, fasting, Eucharistic adoration, scripture, Confession and of course the body and blood of Jesus in the Holy Sacrament so that you can see the truth.

“buy ointment to smear on your eyes so that you may see.” Book of Revelation 14:18

The Myths

Now that I have set the stage, I will address the following Myths over the next several weeks:

Myth #1 Other people are getting away with sin/sex is Consequence-free

Myth #2 God has forgotten about me

Myth #3 Something is wrong with me

Myth #4 Men/Women are defective

Myth #5 Attraction is Physical

Myth #6 I Am Too Picky

Myth #7 I Can Change Him/Her

The Veil

I realize that the concept of the veil is just a metaphor. But, as you read about each of the myths, consider the relationship of the veil when it comes to explaining each myth. If you are covered by a veil, the only suitor who will be able to “see” you is the one that God intends for you to marry. So, in the meantime, the veil will most likely lead to rejection, the feeling of being forgotten and the idea that something is wrong with you. This can really test your patience! And, Satan knows this and capitalizes on it.

Satan also knows that if you use you weapons and commit to chastity, God will be glorified. God will be glorified by your patience and faith in the midst of your trial. Then, God will be glorified by your beautiful, chaste, fruitful marriage. Your marriage will be filled with grace and Superabundance and the world will be blessed and inspired by your witness.

But in the meantime, Satan will harass you.

As Elisabeth Elliot wrote, “The Lover of Souls does not prevent this….He wants us to use our weapons.”

God bless!

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