I am a Roman Catholic faithful to the teaching of the Church and to the Magisterium. I am happily married (the photo of me to the right was taken on the best day of my life!), a Mom and a full-time working professional.
I have a strong interest in sharing the wisdom behind the virtue of Chastity. I am a big fan of Blessed John Paul II, Pope Paul VI, Dietrich and Alice von Hildebrand and St. Thomas Aquinas. I want to promote the wisdom of Humanae Vitae and Theology of the Body.
What qualifies me to offer advice to single girls? I got married when I was 38 years old. So, I understand the plight of the single girl. I understand the challenges singles face in meeting their spouse and the landmines that are present in the dating world.
I understand the challenges that come with waiting for something as precious, desirable and holy as marriage. I understand the confusion that results for faithful singles when others (who are snubbing their noses at God) go on to get married and appear to live happily every after. As a result of my own experience, I understand how to recognize a healthy, holy, marriage-bound courtship.
I made the most of my single years, as we should, but that doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a difficult time. I freely admit that I did not feel fulfilled in my singleness. My heart desired to be a wife and mother and that unfulfilled desire was tough to carry around. Yes, I may have had to accept perpetual singleness and I was willing to if it was the Lord’s will. But for me, the unfulfilled desire, while it lasted, was very difficult.
If you are also experiencing difficulty, then I understand. I remember it well. I wrote a soon to be published book called ‘The Veil’ with the benefit of hindsight; the hindsight I wish I had when I was single. I wrote the book with the knowledge of what it is like to be single when you want to be married and the sting of having to accept that it may never happen.
My emphasis will be on the virtue of Chastity and a theory I have called The Veil.
I hope this site encourages you and fills you with wisdom and hope! Please feel free contact me.
The Veil of Chastity 
I’m so glad God led me to your blog, I am 36 years old living the chaste life with no prospects in sight and I have started to lose hope of ever being a wife…your blog gives me a small glimmer of hope that God still might have a great mate in store for me. I can’t wait until your book comes out, until then please keep me in prayer and keep up the exceptional writing and ministry!
Dear CrystalNikki: thank you for your comment. I have added you to my Divine Mercy Chaplet prayer list and will be praying for you. Please write to me anytime. Love and blessings, Cindy
theveilofchastity@gmail.com
Hi!
I’ve seen your blog on Conversion Diary, and I’ve read a couple of posts …
Many years ago I was so sick and tired of one very persisent “admirer” who was Mr.Wrong in so many ways. And I prayed God not to send me such men … the result is that I have a date every 10 years :-((. I’m 45 now, and no much hope for anything.
I’m good-looking, smart, educated and pious, have no problems with other relationships (family, friends, collegues) and I’ don’t think something is wrong with me. But I really think that most eligibile men are emotional invalids, and that God hates me. Noone who loves me would give me such a lousy life.
I agree with everything you’ve said. I struggle with how being single way past the “usual” age of marrying and seeing everyone else, Christian or not, happily married while I am still alone can be considered God’s “best” for me. I struggle to see how a God who supposedly loves me would withhold something so fundamental from my life.
I have been physically very ill for an extended period of time before and let me tell you, the loneliness and pain of being single is far worse and more harrowing than being very sick.
There are more than 7 billion people in the world I can’t find a husband when everyone else is coupling up without a problem. If God won’t help me, who can? I can only keep waiting on him.
Hi Melinda. I understand completely. I have added you to my Divine Mercy Chaplet prayer list and will be praying for you. Email me if you would like to talk further. I would welcome that. God love you, Cindy
theveilofchastity@gmail.com
Dear Arwen, I am so sorry that you are feeling this way but I do understand why. Please write to me and we can talk further. Praying for you, Cindy theveilofchastity@gmail.com
I wrote a comment on your blog a few weeks ago but I somehow managed to make it disappear before hitting the send button so… I’m trying again now!
Hi! I stumbled upon your wonderful blog a few months ago, and your testimony is really speaking to me. The notion of “veil” is not unfamiliar to me, but some fifteen years ago, I prayed God to put a veil on me and hide me from all the Mr.Wrong (because my heart is weak) and then I forgot I asked God that. I just kept wondering why I faced so many rejections… and then I remembered the veil, thanks to you! Well, I still have my veil on, and praying the rosary makes it more opaque when there is danger I might say yes to the wrong person.
As I am reading your blog, I am very happy it wasn’t one of my foolish idea to justify all the jerks around but that it was the Holy Ghost who inspired me that prayer, as He inspired you the notion of veil. I really enjoy your blog. And wait each and every week to read more about what you have to say. Thank you also for all the links and all the blogs/books you made me discover! God bless you!
Please, please Cindy, publish your book quickly, I am sooooooo waiting for it!
Wow, thank you for your sweet comments!!
you go girl! i love your courage and honesty! so refreshing!
Thank you, Number 9! I love your blog with all its courage and honesty too! Where would we be without God’s grace, right? He is so faithful. God bless you, Cindy
What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for your example of faithfulness! I’m always inspired to find others who value and strive for purity, too. 🙂
Thank you, Laura! God bless you, Cindy